What can I tell my friend? His wife of 8 years cashed out all their liquid assets and hid them..She then told him that she hasn't been happy for a long time and found someone else.. She said that she will be filling for divorce..which 3 month later, she hasn't done. She is now living in the house with another man..my friend can barely afford the rented room he is living in and can't pay his credit card debt and just had a mild heart attack.. Don't know what to tell him
2007-01-16 07:22:50 · 13 answers · asked by corporatetrade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This sort of thing happened to my wife's dad twice! He is currently set again, but it's so sad the way some people feel the need to screw someone over. I don't know what to say for the current situation, but make sure he makes a better decision with the next girl he starts a relationship with (prolly in the distant future). I'm not blaming him for what happened, I'm just saying that he's gotta be careful. I hope things work out for him.
2007-01-16 11:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to pursue a divorce on the grounds of his wife having extramarital relations. Also he needs to explain the "theft" situation to an attorney and discuss his financial options as well. His wife cannot just "hide" the assets; at the very least the bank will have records of her transactions.
He has a good deal of leverage on her because it sounds like she was an idiot and didn't even begin to cover her trail. When this gets to court, she is going to get reamed bigtime.
2007-01-16 07:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her actions are illegal, at least in Illinois. You can't hide marital assets with the intent of concealing them in the process of leaving your spouse. Maybe this is why she hasn't gotten the paperwork started yet. After so many months, I think, you can't say the person did it to hide them for the divorce (but it's longer than three months). No one deserves that crap. Tell him to get a good divorce attorney and toss her.
2007-01-16 07:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might want to file the divorce and tell his lawyer about all this She might could get into some trouble I don't really know. Does your friend have a friend he can stay with right now till he gets back on his feet.
2007-01-16 07:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree...hire a lawyer. and the next time that he decides to jump the marriage boat...he needs to have a bank account that is in his name only. he may have to end up living on basic needs, cut off the cable, cut off the internet, does he have both a land line phone and a cell phone? then cut off the land line. don't eat out, if he is able work some over time. start putting money aside. if he is able to...get an account opened in his name only and close out the joint account. close out any joint credit cards immediately. or if he is able to...get a second part time job so that he can start getting some extra cash. if he is this stressed out..get him to try some yoga or some relaxing exercises or exercises to help him deal with the stress. change the locks. and yes...hire a lawyer. if he has clothes that he takes to the cleaners then he may have to cut back on that too. anything that would be considered 'extra' he may have to cut off or stop doing for now until he can get back on his feet financially. get him to talk to his credtitors. they may be able to give him a few months (meaning he may not have to pay any money for a few months depending on his situation) so that he can get back on his feet. be there for your friend cause he needs one right now.
2007-01-16 07:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to file for a divorce himself. He needs to file for 1/2 of the value of the assets too. The court can order her to repay him for what he is entitled.
2007-01-16 07:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by swanser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that. not much you can do but to be there for him and tell him it will get better, at least give him hope even if you think there is none. Not much you can tell him, for some reason if a man does that to a woman he goes to jail but when a woman does it to a man she's just being a woman.
2007-01-16 07:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say tell him to file, they have programs for the ppl that cant afford divorces, and make sure he tell them bout everythings shes done with assets and such
2007-01-16 07:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by haarleyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get down to the courthouse and file for the divorce and stop waiting for his wife to do it!! Tell him to go get new accounts that her name isn't on, mostly just be his friend.
2007-01-16 07:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by nascar f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend let his wife clean him out and HE moved?
Now she has some other guy in the house?
He may be beyond help.
2007-01-16 07:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋