I am almost four months pregnant and just found out my boyfriend has been seeing other girls what should i do?

Question

i have had weird feellings about this girl and then i went through his phone and found text messages they had written back and forth i asked him and he said they were just friends but i recently seen some pictures on my space of them two together at his work and the funny thing is they were taken the same day as my first ultra sound that he couldnt be at cause he was so busy at work i love him and im carrying his child but i dont know what to do please help

Answer 1

honey, you know that they are more than friends. regardless if you are having his child, you need to leave him. it's obvious that he is cheating on you or about to cheat on you.

Answer 2

Well, I am the sort of person to want to talk...So if I were you, I would sit the two of them down and see whats up....if you still feel that somethings going on, then I would leave. Its not good to be in a relationship and always wonder "what if?"...."what if he cheated with her?" You need to keep your spirits up so that you have a healthy pregnancy, and just know that pregnant is beautiful!
I'm a firm believer that once a cheater always a cheater! If you find somethings going on, then leave him and stick it to him with child support!! LOL. You may have needed him to get pregnant, but you sure as heck dont need him to raise that baby.

Answer 3

oh my gosh. That is terriable that he couldnt go to your ultra sound but he was at work with ms. thang.
I will just tell you my opinion.
He will do what you let him do. Not saying it is your fault, but you must confront him. Dont ask questions, just speak!
Let him know what you will not stand for and take from him. He knows what he is doing and so do you, so therefor there should be no questions for him to answer. I have been married for two years and were are trying to concieve so I am just putting myself in your shoes. Be strong and know that you and your baby are most important. My mother has told me stories of my father cheating when she was pregnant with my younger brother. She cried alot of course but she stayed strong. Tell him to get rid of that damn myspace anyways. Do your research on it first though. See if he left any comments on her page and etc.
I would tell you to call the lady and all that but you are pregnant and dont need to stress yourself out.
Just keep in mind that you dont have to leave him but if you dont like what he is doing let him know he has to change and those things he is doing needs to stop if he wants to keep his girlfriend and precious baby on the way. The next appointment you have he better be there and etc.
Sorry if I sound so strong but most women act really quiet and put up with too much crap from men. Men run over most women because of what women let them do and put up with.
Good luck, Congrats and take care

Answer 4

This is an easy answer.

1) Get married before having sex;
2) If you have sex before marriage use at least 2 methods of birth control simultaneously;
3) If you get pregnant after ignoring the 2 items above then give the baby up for adoption to a RESPONSIBLE couple and stay as far away from the sperm donor as possible.

Answer 5

You should probably get rid of him. If he's messing with other people, you run the risk of getting a STD and you really do not want to that while you're pregnant, let alone any other time. And if he's messing around on you while you're pregnant, I can guarantee he'll keep doing it. One more thing, what kind of man misses the first ultrasound. My fiance requested that off, but if he hadn't of gotten it off, I guarantee he would have called off even faced with the prospect of losing his job. You seriously need to dump this guy. Many woman have been single mothers and their children are happier and healthier because of it. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Tricky situation you have yourself in.

This child is going to need you to be stable emotionally, if you stay with this guy I think you are not going to be able to provide that for this child.

This child needs to come first and needs to have good people around it. Get support from you family and resolve the situation with this guy. He will still be a part of the child s life but you 2 don't need to be together.


Don't waste your time with someone who doesn't RESPECT you or your child!

Answer 7

I suggest leaving him, once a cheater, always, so they say but your going to have a hard time trusting him and that is not good for any relationship. You will always feel he is cheating. He obviously doesn't care as deeply for you or his unborn child, so I think you should concentrate on your baby and your happiness and leave him. Its hard raising a child on your own but whats a relationship if you suspect hes cheating all the time.

Answer 8

Oh sweetie, I know the feeling. I dealt with the same thing a couple months ago. Just dont stress about it and if he cheats you will find out and then you leave him...women are strong and we are independant we dont need a man to take care of us. Just dont ask him about it or argue about it, it will just make matters worse believe me.

Answer 9

Now you have to put your feelings aside and think about your baby and the well being for your child. If he's out there being a no good boyfriend then leave him. You aren't going to be the one missing out he is.Don't get yourself so upset over this.

Answer 10

Leave and start making plans for a life by yourself. He won't change so don't bet on it. The longer you hold on the more heartache you will go through. I know this is not what you want to hear but it is the truth.

Answer 11

Leave his ASS now. You don't need him. You can find someone better that wants to be with you and your child, and I mean only you. Or you don't even need anyone for that matter. As long as you have family and friends who are there for you that is all you need. Good Luck hon, and Congrats! Tell him you'll see his ass in court if he wants to be like that.