im 17.4 weeks pregnant and called to get my ultrasound changed from Feb 1st to Jan 28th, as i wont have insurance for the month of Feb, and at that time i will be 19.4 weeks pregnant, i was told by my dr that i wont be able to find out the sex because it will be to early. Which i know isnt true, hes been giving me problems since day one. Everytime i call and ask for a nurse they send me to the 3rd floor, where they take a message and get it up to 5th floor to his office, and his nurses call back if they feel like it. The first time i went, the office LOST my blood work. What do i do......im almost half way through my pregnancy, soooo do i put up with this jerkoff or change my OB/GYN. Hes a very respected ob in my town, dont ask me why.....I cant stand him anymore. What would you do?
2007-01-16 07:09:34 · 23 answers · asked by jess_n_flip 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would change doctors. If you're not comfortable with him, it will make your delivery even harder. It's entirely your choice, your baby, so screw everyone that doesn't like your decision.
2007-01-16 07:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a GREAT doctor and she's so incredible I wouldn't know what to do without her and her nurses still take all day to call me back. They are busy and have hundreds of patients, so that's expected for a good doctor actually. Losing lab work happens too, it's usually the lab's mistake by misplacing it or sending it to the wrong doctor. The lab at my office once sent stuff to the hospital, instead of my doctor and then they sent it back and STILL sent it to the wrong doctor! As for telling you it's too early, well, some doctors are VERY keen on it being the 20th week for an ultrasound. My doctor is! She's even scheduled me during her vacation and came in during her vacation because the 20th week is so important. It's just how some doctor's are, it's not really a good/bad thing. More of a pet pev I would say for them. You always have the choice and the right to change doctors at any time. If you don't feel comfortable, then change. You should always feel comfortable with the doctor you choose!
Advice if you do change....find a FEMALE ob who has children. It's a world of difference to hear words coming from a women who has experienced it all and KNOWS how you're feeling, not just reading what you SHOULD be feeling from a book. I think that's why I love my doctor so much. She can honestly relate to everything I say and feel and it's great.
2007-01-16 07:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're uncomfortable w/ your doctor then change...but he's not entirely incorrect about the ultrasound and being able to tell. He may be able to tell, but little boys don't always show up that soon. Its best to wait till week 20 or later. As some little boys may be late bloomers.
When I had my ultrasound at 20 wks. he said it was most likely a girl, though his little boy predictions are 99% correct most of the time, his girls sometimes turned out to be little boys because their parts come in later. He scheduled another ultrasound at 28 wks for other reasons and said that if she was still a she by then that most likely she'll be a girl. None the less ultrasounds are NOT 100% there is alot of room for misinterpretation.
2007-01-16 07:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely look at your other options. I am on baby #2 and am 11 weeks pregnant. It is SOOO very important to your health and your sanity to have a doctor and nursing staff you feel very supported by. With my first, my doctor and nursing staff was ABSOLUTELY amazing! I felt like a million dollars every time I left the office. My doctor always made me feel like I was going to be the best mother and that I was taking such great care of my body and my unborn child. I loved every single appt. My insurance changed and I've started with a new doctor and nursing staff. The nurse made a rather rude comment about the fact that I am not married, although my signifigant other and I have been together for 6 years strong and just haven't decided that marriage was the route we wanted to go. She actually made a couple off the cuff remarks about it, although I really don't beleive it was in malice. I said back to her "I can't possibly be the first expectant mother to enter your office w/o being married" & "I'm not asking for you to provide DNA test to find out who my child's father is". She got the point very quickly. But, my first visit with my new doctor, I brought it to his attention because it really did bother me. He apologized and took me quite seriously and said he would sit down with her and talk about it.
My point is... if you aren't happy, you are soon enough in your pregnancy that I would definately suggest changing and seeing your other options. You can find out as early as 16 weeks the sex of your child, so there should be no reason why they shouldn't accomodate your insurance issue.
Best of luck to you!
2007-01-16 07:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by nicbenson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would change obs. you need to feel comfortable with your dr. you can definetly find out the sex of the baby at 19 + weeks. it is not a good thing when the nurses may or may not call you back you are probaly not calling unless it is important to you. i changed obs with my baby because i just didn't feel comfortable with the dr. they will have to send your paperwork and documentation of the pregnancy so far if you do change obs.
2007-01-16 07:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by Maddie and Jacobs mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's right they say you can tell the best after 22 weeks, I had my first ultrasound when I was 23 and you could barely tell, it was a girl by the way! The tech even said it's the best time to get the first one done! Good luck!
25 weeks with my 1st!
2007-01-16 07:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Claudia-Elena's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like him switch doctors.
You cant usually tell the sex of the baby until it is 5-6 months old, and even then it is hard if the babies legs are crossed. I would say, there is a chance to try to see the sex, but dont be disappointed if you dont.
I got several ultrasounds and I didnt know what my last child was until they placed her in my arms.
2007-01-16 07:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mystie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get another doctor. And you can find out the sex at 19 weeks. I have with all of my babies at 19 weeks. My picture right there is of my daughter at 19 weeks and we were able to tell immediatley. And losing your blood work is not a good thing at all. If they can lose it, whose to say they wont mix it up with someone elses too.So doesnt sound like he wants to do much for you or help you.
2007-01-16 07:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely get a new doc. If your not comfortable with him why keep going. Does he work for the hospital or is he private practice? If he works for the hospital I would call the hospital administrator and file a complaint. Even if he is highly respected, he may have had other complaints in the past. I would let someone know how you are feeling.
2007-01-16 07:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sara G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!!!!!!!! Get a new ob/gyn call and schedule an appt. you will be able to see the sex i was 17 weeks with my son. my appt. this time is 19 weeks. Get a Dr. you are happy with that makes you feel comfortable.
2007-01-16 07:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mommyof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need an annoying doctor when pregnant. Switch. I just found a doctor and I am 18 weeks in 2 days... I tried 4 doctors.. the 4'th was the charm... I am so happy with him... i feel so releived, it is a load off
2007-01-16 07:17:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋