How to deal with a miscarriage?

Question

I had a miscarriage in September and I still feel an overwhelming sense of grief. The babies father and I are no longer together and even though we are attempting to be friends he offers no support. I feel very alone. I think about and cry for the loss of my child daily. I just don't know what to do.

Answer 1

There is nothing you can do except grieve.

Don't let anyone tell you to "get over it" and don't let anyone make you feel like you didn't have a baby. I know a lot of times people don't want to talk about it because they think it is too hard for the parents but often times, that is just what the parents need; aknowledgement that there was a baby and that baby is gone.

Take good care of yourself. There is no right time to end grieving.

Perhaps you should seek a therapist though to help you through this. It might benefit you to have someone to just vent to and get out your worries, concerns and sadness. As well, if you are in a depression now it might be helpful to be on antidepressants for a while until you are able to learn to cope with the loss. Some peole need extra help. Don't be ashamed.

As well, there is a great grief and loss forum at justmommies.com

I suggest you check it out. Many other women have gone through what you are going through right now and sometimes it just helps to know you are not alone.

Answer 2

There is no easy way to deal with a Miscarriage. Like any other loss you have to work through it, talk through it and live through it! It's not the end of your life. You will have other oppurtunities to have a baby. After having 2 miscarriages I was able to concieve my son, who is now a beautiful 1 yr old!
Do not look for the babies father to be their for you! It's up to you to take a few steps forward and move on with your life. If you do not have family near you to discuss this with, I suggest seeking counseling. Just the act of talking about it and getting the grief out of your system will help you move on.
Best of Luck!
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Answer 3

Dont dwell on it, Everything happens for a reason and there is nothing u can do about it. Misscarriages happen all the time and its hard to determine why esp in the first trimester. But Everything will be ok. What doesnt kill u only makes u stronger. Dont worry about him, if he cant be there for u then obviously he has some problems of his own to work out. Your baby is in a better place be happy for him/her!! You will one day find a man to be with and have kids with. So all u can do is be strong and move on. Cuz if all u do is get depressed then u will never go out and meet that man! So keep your head up im sorry about your loss! Ill pray for you!

Answer 4

I have had two miscarriages and a still born baby, you have to keep moving forward, not forget but move forward...its unhealthy to let yourself be down so much...remeber that god took this baby from you for a reason...

Answer 5

You need to find someone to talk to. You need to get these emotions out or else your going to get into depression which very bad for your health and well being. By not finding a professional to talk to you are only staying put and dwelling on these issues, you need to talk about and move forward with it. Not forget but learn how to cope and prgress with you life. Please find someone to talk to before it gets worse.

Answer 6

crying is a good thing. don't hold it in. right a letter to your unborn child tell it how much you love it and how you always will. tie this letter to a balloon and send it to heaven for him/her. this has helped me with my loss.

Answer 7

You should tell your x husband how u feel and I am sure he will understand! You can work this out! Dont worry b happy :D