my man is going to court for childsupport
mind u before this he went on to do the dna test and keep from me and went to court to do this....
i forgave him from keeping it fm me becuase i did not want to hurt me if it want his
now is time for him to pay child support it his 99.9 ,
should i go with him?
2007-01-16 07:09:17 · 11 answers · asked by lulu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you are not one of the parents, then no, dont go. i have seen judges/hearing officers get quite p 'off about gf or bf attending anyway (and they tell them 'this is none of your business, this is between the two parents').
its not a war where you need to be 'supportive', but if you want to be supportive, dont bad mouth the babys mama... just say things to him like 'your a good dad for taking care of your child' and things like that.
all they are going to do is look at both parents incomes, and how many children (are in the case, not how many others he/she may have) and come up with a figure.
here is a calculator to help; just click on your state and fill it in. this is to give a general idea as to what is to be paid.
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
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2007-01-16 11:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? He is with you now and if the both of you are serious about each other, why not? You need to be there for support unless the ex is a drama queen. I would be there for my man if he was going through such a thing. Believe me...he will need you by his side.
2007-01-16 15:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can go with him if you want for moral support, but you won't be allowed to go into the courtroom with him. they say its none of your business. thats what they told me, but they didn't take into consideration that the kid came into my home, i had to cook for her, clean up after her, have a room in my home for her. wash her clothes, etc..and i had to go in clothes with holes while he paid child support each month even though he wasn't working.
it is really a mess, but if you are going with the guy, then its best to know everything from the start.
2007-01-16 15:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIS BUTT...Why would you stay with someone who could keep something as IMPORTANT as a CHILD from you?
He is just saying it was to protect you so you wouldn't be as mad. It's the same as lying...go before he sucks you in good. Hopefully your not married.
Good luck
Cyn
2007-01-16 15:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by meha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pouls le vouz Franscais?
Because I'm having a difficult time understanding your imperfect English grammatical errors.
2007-01-16 15:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your question is so poorly written I do not understand what u are asking....but if he is he required to appear before the court u should only attend if HE HAS ASKED FOR U TO BE THERE
otherwise stay out of it---it is not your concern
2007-01-16 15:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have, or are planning to have a long-term relationship, then you need to be there. Ultimately, anything that effects his finances will in turn have an effect on your relationship.
2007-01-16 15:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by itsben1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really didn't understand what u were saying but i think its his problem and he lied to you about it anyway so u should let him go on his own
2007-01-16 15:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you need to show him your there to support him and his kids thats if you really love this dude
2007-01-16 15:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by sissyj25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok post again in english
2007-01-16 15:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by cathy [♥'s] james 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋