What are the reasons people get: Commitmnet Phobia? Do u have commitemnt phobia? you dateed someone like that?

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Answer 1

committment phobia? lol.. If someone is not willing to commit he/she has questions in their mind about the other person. it's that simple. It's not fear, (phobia is fear to an extreme).. I'd say caution dictates proceeding in a relationship. If a person proceeds to quickly many relationship sour because of forcing committment on someone who doesn't have a comfort level with the person to whom they are dating..

the words come to mind, EASY DOES IT.. If you have questions go slow. Don't jump into bed until you've decided this is someone to whom you are willing to spend a lot more time with then the 5 minutes in the sack.

Answer 2

Commitment phobia is a myth the simple truth is the other person has doubts and they are just too afraid to be honest. My personal experience I have had women hinted to me that they would like to get married, and I remember saying to myself no way in hell I would like to spend the rest of my life with YOU

So there is rally no phobia it is only because the other person sees aspect about the other persons character they are not happy with. How else do you explain a couple going together for 25 years and after breaking up, one of them get married after just a few months.

Answer 3

A major reason to why people get this phobia is the fact they are unsure of themselves and usually feel threatened not by the other but by themselves. These people tend to ween away from commitment because they just can't trust themselves and conclusively incapable of trusting others.

Answer 4

hello. my current boyfriend is like that. it's horrible; from the outside looking in people would think that he's not faithful because he won't commit, but i don't feel like that at all. he had a difficult upbringing, and when he got back from iraq he found out that his mother and father who were married for 26 years and had 6 kids together were getting divorced. we're always together but he says that he wont consider me anything other than a friend. after dealing with that for a year i told him i was done and that i deserved better and he came to me crying and said that a friend is something that will always be there and is something constant, a girlfriend or a wife isn't constant. it's hard for me because i love him very much but we don't need to be"friends" anymore if he doesn't agree to get counseling for his issues. he has agreed. maybe you should suggest something like that. but in the meantime i feel sorry for you. it's a hard position to be in. didn't mean to write a novel. good luck, but you're worth a commitment!!! everyone is:)