This is very confusing, my wife recently told me to have sex with a friend of a friend. I was very hesitant but it turned us on. We have been married 12 years and have a great sex life. well this friend of a friend has been flirting with me and texting me, so my wife told me to go for it, I was very nervous because I have only been with two people. anyway were having a great time, everything was great friend of a friend was enjoying, and I starting thinking which is bad, and I couldnt stay erect, couldnt finish. Now my wife is saying she wants me to try again not sure at this point if the friend of the friend will., I let her know I was nervous and she said we will try again next time, will she give me a next time?
2007-01-16 06:39:22 · 34 answers · asked by sureofnothing2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i want a wife like yours. if this one doesn't give you another chance she may find another friend for you.
2007-01-16 06:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This isn't unnatural at all. In fact, there are a lot of people that find it stimulating to know that their partner is with someone else. People tend to do what your wife has done and make sure it's with someone that they know. There's no need to be nervous, but I can understand your apprehensions. Since your wife seems to be making an effort to experiment with your sex life, try and go along with it. You might want to surprise her and involve her by having her watch while you and the friend of a friend are together. It might even "help" you to have your wife there, maybe even make you more comfortable with the situation. But if you're just not feeling right about it, talk to your wife and tell her how you feel about it. Ater all, she is your wife and she should understand that you don't want to do something like that with another woman.
2007-01-16 06:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by drassielle_zallizare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Given your uneasiness with this situation I would tell your wife you're not interested because with this kind of thing all people involved must be on the same page or ill feelings will later arise. And if she's ok with you doing another woman, what do you think is the next step? She's going to want you to allow her to sleep with another man. Sorry but your wife is playing games with her marriage, and I don't have much respect for that
2007-01-16 07:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great story!
I guess you will get lots of answers, some good some not so good!
To answer you, I would say yes you will and I advice you relax, as the wife says it's OK, and I think I see the attraction for your wife as she wants to know that you're desired by another women.
You lucky get, get it!
A big flip side is if the friend of a friend likes it too much and becomes attached. Does the friend of a friend know your wife has cleared this debacle?
So what's coming next after this then?
2007-01-16 06:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Gem of Wisdom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
BAD BAD BAD idea - what the heck? Haven't you gotten the hint that it was not the right thing to do? That is adultery at it's worst! It will take a long time to recover what you had w/the wife - she is nuts for even suggesting it & you are stupid for going for it! Shame on you two! Why don't you just become swingers now? in my opinion, your wife has other motives? What a shame!
2007-01-16 07:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, if you love your wife and your sex life is that great with her, then why sleep with another woman? You couldn't finish because you knew what you were doing was wrong. Explain to your wife that you don't feel comfortable about doing it, and also ask yourself this question...... How Would You Feel If It Was Your Wife Sleeping With Another Man? If you love your wife the answer would be you wouldnt like it, maybe that is how your wife would feel. Don't do it again, please, for the sake of your marriage and your love.
Best Wishes.
2007-01-16 06:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sucks to be you! Seriously, though, I can understand the apprehension and it can be a bone killer. Be careful, though, because it could come back to bite you in the a** later on down the road. Not necessarily, but it's quite a risk to take.
Even though you did it with your wife's permission, should you chose to do it again successfully, you'll be opening Pandora's box. There's no telling what will come out of it!
2007-01-16 07:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Leroy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly wife has an STD from a friend of a friend, and wants you to share it without the guilt trip, knowing that this friend of a friend has one also.
Do you own a home, car, stocks?
It could be video time and your the Star!
2007-01-16 06:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by Migsoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. This will only lead to trouble. You're obviously not comfortable with this. Your wife may be now, but this will give her a reason/excuse to get upset and blame you for things later on. Tell your wife that you don't want to be with anyone but her and that the only way your marriage will work is if both of you adhere to this rule. Just don't try to go there.
2007-01-16 06:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
That is just "F'd" up!!! Sorry! I don't get it!! Why be married? I am not trying to judge, but I just don't understand why people who are married do this!? Oh well.....to each there own! Just a thought.......maybe you were thinking about how wrong you were for doing what you were doing.......following your gut is always the best!
P.S. I hope you are prepared for your wife to be screwing another man soon! I can almost promise she will be asking for her turn!
2007-01-16 06:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um, why did you even do it in the first place? Apparantly your penis has more of a conscious than you do. You're married, you made a committment before God to one woman. Is she cheating also? That would explain the reason she allowed you to cheat. If I were you, I would work on my marriage instead of worrying about a next time with a stranger. Take a hint from your 2nd brain and don't do it.
2007-01-16 06:45:56 · answer #11 · answered by evilcharm1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋