My best friend is completely depressed because one her closest guy pals has been forbidden from having anything to do with her by his girlfriend. Basically everything was fine until another friend let slip to his girlfriend that years ago they had a one night stand. It was absoultely years ago and they were only ever mates - nothing in it whatsoever - just a drunken fumble when they were both single and he had never even met this new girlfriend. The girl has now forbidden her boyfriend from having anything to do with my friend and this means she has been cut out of the social circle more or less completely. We are all in our 30s and this situatin is just silly - I feel so bad for her and have advised that she talks to the girlfriend. Can anyone else offer advice on this one?
2007-01-16 06:37:55 · 15 answers · asked by Islandgirlss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OKay, let her solve her own problems. You are a good friend though............
^_^ Other girl is jealous
2007-01-16 06:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would have to say, that the boyfriend needs to stick up for his friend to the girl friend. This is NOT something that should be happening in adult relationships, I mean cmon now. The girlfriend needs a serious reality check, she also needs to learn to become more secure. HER insecurity has cost, the boyfriend a friendship, the girl to feel ostrasized, and a fight between all of them. Hurt feelings to say the least.
If I were to offer advice, I would tell the boyfriend to stick up for himself, I would also tell the girl, that since it was the girlfriend that is pulling the Sh!t that it needs to be the boyfriend that stands up and says HEY...
I might also advize that, ALL three of them sit down, on the grounds they can actually act like adults for two freakin hours, and talk. Actually listen to each other, and the girlfriend needs to be the one to listen the most, because obviously...she Isn't.
2007-01-16 06:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two sides to every story, it seems that a lot of friendships break apart because of jealousy and when things get said or someone says something wrong to the other person then you have mess on your hands. Although your friend was truthful about her past, the other person should have heard the othr side of the story.There is obviously more to this then meets the eye, if you friend wants to she can try to contact the other person and see if they can work out their problems and throw the right cards on the table, if the friend does not want to work things out then your friends needs to move on and take it as a lesson in life that she can use in other friendships.
2007-01-16 07:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is extremely immature of this guy's girlfriend. If they were husband and wife it would be a different story, but a lasting friendship is more important than a more likely than not temporary girlfriend. If she is unwilling to allow two friends to be together because of jealousy then she is probably not the kind of person he should be with. Your friend, the boyfriend, and the girlfriend should all sit down together and work this thing out between themselves.
2007-01-16 06:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Evan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girlfriend needs to stop being so insecure. You guys are 30, and mature, and if the boyfreind and friend say it was a one night stand years ago, then that's what it was. Tell her not to make such a pissy fit out of that. Tell the boyfreind that it's HIS life and if he wants to talk to his friend, then he sure as hell can. If the girlfriend boils it down to a "Her or Me" situation, then he should just dump her right there. Love should never make you choose between friends.
2007-01-16 06:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by alchemicalstann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice in this situation would be to confront the male friend. He is the one who will have to make the decision of whether the friend is more important than the girlfriend. It won't matter what the girl says to the girlfriend, it's already in her head that they had sex before. She will never allow her man to be alone with the "friend" again. This talk has to be between the male and female friend. They are the only ones who will determine what is more important. Thank you and good luck.
2007-01-16 06:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
come across a clean perfect pal, yet don't be mean about it. only see if yet another one in all of your associates might want to opt for to loaf round with you really even as this one is busy. don't be mad or some thing. i became in an similar challenge back my freshman 3 hundred and sixty 5 days in hs......my perfect pal stopped just about each little thing with me, she became really distracted after we were at the same time, and up till those days i did not understand what had got here about, we only kinda grew aside. she and that i did not share many pastimes any extra and we were growing aside for a lengthy time period, she became only formidable adequate to discover human beings with a similar activity. attempt growing a member of a club or some thing that pastimes you and meet human beings there who share a similar activity. i understand i'm using the word activity lots, and that i wager i appologize for that, yet per chance it truly is the in reality ingredient. only please do not do what i did and delivers up putting out at the same time with her because of it. i lost a sturdy pal because i became disenchanted at her. i felt like she abandoned me for the reason that i did not have many pals. you're pal isn't leaving behind you, she's only searching human beings who've extra in instantly ahead whith her. and that is frequent, and quite healthful. so do your self a opt for and word in case you haven't got extra in instantly ahead with some different person. yet like i stated previously, please don't be mean about it.
2016-11-24 21:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are all adults and this is acting like high school kids! Your friend should definitly sit down with the girlfriend and explain to her their relationship and that the one night stand years ago was just that and it is behind them. Then if this girl decides to still forbid her bf to see her then in my opinion the BF needs to rethink his choices of a GF. Girlfriends come and go, but Friends stick with you till the end! Motto to live by.
2007-01-16 06:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i say what happened in the past stays in the past its ancient history. i would suggest youre guy friend to sit down and explain to his girlfriend that he dosent like the whole jealous gig its a turn off and that what happened is ancient history and there just friends and thats all theyll ever and that he lovesher and her only and she needs to respect this he has the right to have friends, my absolute saying for this is a best friend is hard to find and love comes and goes but as true friend is theultimate satisfaction.
2007-01-16 06:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by amethyst m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. she does need to just go and talk to the girlfriend. this sounds totally silly to me. if there is no indication that these two are fooling around, then she is just being completely ridiculous. how would the girlfriend feel if the situation was reversed?
2007-01-16 06:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy should be slapped for allowing someone he just met to dictate who he can and can't hang out with.
2007-01-16 06:58:40 · answer #11 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋