If a relationship has endure a lot of hardship one way or another visa versa.....is it possible to survive after three years and a lot of resentment??
2007-01-16 06:37:12 · 17 answers · asked by Elizabeth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had a client who went through a terrible divorce after seven years--& we both agreed there were enough red flags within the first year for her to leave. They even had long conversations ON TAPE (to give each other time to play & LISTEN). She listened, he didn't. She suggested therapy/marriage counsel--& he refused to go back after the first session, insisting I was on "her side" when we hadn't even gotten into the problems. She continued, but ultimately filed for divorce. "Resentment" usually builds up when the two don't communicate, (but not always). It depends very much on the degree each of you will invest in better understanding, resolving. I can't help because I don't know enough about either of you.
2007-01-16 06:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. You just have to look at the future as the future! The past has nothing to do with what your future could be together. Everyone goes through s**t, but the main thing is to forget the past. Don't ever bring it up, especially in arguments. That is the trick on surviving. Relationships take VERY hard work, and if you both can work hard at it, then there is no way it can fail.
2007-01-16 14:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For it to work you must let the resentment go. And your partner must work as hard on the relationship as you do. If the BOTH of you don't want it it will not work. But, it can survive with a lot of work. Good luck.
2007-01-16 14:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by SweetFreak 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Resentment. To me, that's the key word on your question. That happens when you don't clear the air and give yourself a chance to start a new. Other wise, it always lurk on the background. You have the right to be happy. Good luck.
2007-01-16 14:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by elgil 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always possible if both people are willing to work at it. Trying remembering what attracted you to each other in the first place. A good book to read - Five Love Languages! I highly recommend it.
2007-01-16 14:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I f you are the only one trying then you should just forget it. It takes 2 people intersted and committed to the relationship. I slugged at it for 35 years and it still ended in divorce.
2007-01-16 14:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by momsam49 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
FIrst, acknowledge why you each resent each other........in an open forum(counseling etc). Then see if each of you.......can get past it. If only one can.........its still no good as the other will not improve the relationship. If you cant both.......agree to counsel for it to get better....thats an indicator there......that its time to move on alone.
2007-01-16 14:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by purefire41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might but if it is abusive it won't tome too move on or if cheating is involved time to hit the road.
2007-01-16 14:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by tino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. You can try counseling. Or take a look at this:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/
2007-01-16 14:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe with forgiveness and try counseling if both agree but you have to be able to communicate with each other.
2007-01-16 14:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by newrunner 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋