Is it better to get plastic surgery or to accept myself as I am?

Question

I think I'm ugly, others don't seem to think so. But what do they know? Anyways, at times I'm ok with how I look. But most of the time I hate my nose and I feel its not proportionate with my face. I feel so ugly and its not real big or anything. But I can't seem to be ok with how I look. I used to cover up mirrors just so I wouldn't have to look at myself. In bathrooms I would look down when washing my hands. I don't wear makeup because I don't know how to put it on and I don't see the point. I keep thinking I need plastic surgery, but is it really worth it? I've forced myself to always look in mirrors lately just so I have to look at myself. People have said I have a pretty face or I'm cute or whatever, but I don't see it.

People have said I have good skin. I have pale skin though. I don't go to tanning beds and I hate being out in the sun. I get more freckles that way. I like my freckles, I like my eyes, I hate everything else about my face. I know I have deeper issues. But I feel like if I improve some things on the outside maybe it would help with the inside. I know its the reverse that works better, but it hasn't been for me. I am 22 for those who asked.

Answer 1

Accept your true beauty. I think you should work on your self esteem. Why is it that you think you're ugly? Don't buy into the fake is beautiful mentality that this generation is ok with. Be true to yourself. Be a good person to yourself and others and maybe you'll learn to see your true beauty.

Answer 2

Based upon another question you asked (and I answered), No way. Don't even think about it. ESPECIALLY if people already say you are beautiful as you are.

Have a few reasons why, but some of it definitely falls under the headding of TMI (Too Much Information) .

Anyway, what the hell happens when you wake up looking like that hideaous mannequin Paris H.? Got now THAT would be a reason to be depressed.

Had rhinoplasty myself several years ago to fix a deviated septum which blocked me from breathing or blowing my nose (colds were a bummer). Now I can breathe, but the nose is still crooked from the punch I blocked with it, and about once a month (for the past 7 years) I get infections and cysts where they made the incisions that I never had before in my life. and my nose smells... (haha you say) but not good, it emits a foul odor from the cysts that I never had before in my life. I just pray that nobody else smells it, but it's on the inside of my nostrils so I can't get away from the smell. leave well enough alone. you can always have it done in 20 years if you still think you need it then.

was going to suggest the pic thing too, but that's all rather shallow and may not be a good pic, or my tatses might be very different than yours. If you want a better answer, just post a pic on your profile. Make it funny and just show your nose ;) :P

Answer 3

I don't think that it is the way you look that is wrong here . I do think however that you have very low self esteem . How to bolster that is a job in itself but you must do it in order to lead a happy life and be satisfied with most of what you were bestowed with . Nobody is perfect. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder . Remember that . When you look into a mirror focus on a part of your face that you feel is pretty darn nice . Your hair maybe, your eyes and the way you smile. Have teeth streightened if they need be ,or anything that you can improve without surgery and big expense . Let that nose be last of your concerns . How old are you anyhow, I ask that because most of us are not happy with something about our looks when we grow up . Then pretty soon when you mature you see that you are pretty darn nice . And be a nice person, dear heart, it counts a lot and will shine through a lot .
Plastic surgery is for folks who are disfigured or getting up in years and want to have a re-run in life .
Learn to use make up. Good skin does not need it by a long shot. And stay out of the sun or tanning beds . In a decade or so you have cancer to give you a dose of misery .
So, I have preached enough . I hope you have a person close to you to guide you along . You are beautiful the way you are .Leave well enough alone and thank the good Lord for a healthy body .

Answer 4

Insecurity doesn't go away just because you get a new face or new boobs or a tummy tuck. If you are unhappy with who you are or what you look like it will not be solved by surgery. You will have to accept yourself and love yourself for who and what you are and look like or surgery will just be a waste of money, you would still wake up and look in the mirror every morning and feel ugly. I also had a lot of insecurities when I was younger, I had people telling me that I was pretty or cute or whatever and I didn't believe them. It wasn't until I started telling myself that I was pretty that I started to believe it. Every day look in the mirror and say I'm beautiful.

Answer 5

Just be thankful that all you have to deal with is an imperfect nose.

What if you had been born with a hairlip, and you had an ugly scar running down your top lip, and missing palate and teeth?

What if you had a strawberry birthmark that covered almost half of your face?

What if you had eyes displaced to the outside of your head, giving you a fish look?

What if you had a face full of over large orange freckles?

I have given you two examples of birth defects that definitely require surgery, and two examples of things that CAN'T be changed by surgery.

Do you think you're so badly off anymore?

Answer 6

I have always thought about getting plastic surgery....But after hearing rumors about afterwards and the things you have to do to help stay that way was terrifying to me. I have always just thought about staying the way I am... If God wanted you to look another way then he would have put you that way. Humans are never perfect... and that's what makes us different. Because we would all be boring if we were all the same way. and plus it is alot of money and terrible side effects..(some) but yeah stay the way you are. Ignore what people tell you because I have been there before with being name called and everything and now I feel more better about myself than I ever have....what hurts the most is what makes you stronger!

Answer 7

I don't think that the problem is your nose. The problem lies deep within you. I see a lot of people with unproportioned features on their face and body and they walk around like they are beauty kings and queens. They are confident because inside they know they are the S H I T, you need to realize that about yourself too. You need to work on your insecurities, perhaps you can figure out the root of your unhappiness and then go from there. I know that you can see some of the beauty in you so go ahead and emphasize that part of yourself.

Answer 8

I wouldn't get the plastic surgery until you've dealt with your low self esteem issues or you could find yourself looking like MJ one day. He is a great example of someone who just never knew when to quit trying to modify his looks untill he was happy with himself. Do you think he's happy about how he looks now? Maybe try therapy or something first. You might find you really DO look cute. Then take the thousands you would have spent on plastic surgery and go on a holiday.

Answer 9

Quote: "I don't wear makeup because I don't know how to put it on, and I don't see the point."

I have to ask, why is it worth it to change your face with surgery, but not to enhance what's already there with a little cosmetics?

Wearing makeup can do more than add color to your eyes or lips. There are countless tricks that you can do with foundation and concealer to "change" the appearance of the shape of your nose (and lips, eyes, cheekbones, and the rest of your face) to one you like better. I suggest that you look into learning how to apply makeup, and do the little things to disguise what you see as flaws before you take the drastic step of surgery.

Remember, taking away one "flaw" won't make you happier with yourself. That has to come from the inside. If you elimate one problem area, in your case a nose, you will always find something new to be unhappy about. Maybe the next big thing you'll focus on will be your cheekbones, lips, chin, eyes, breasts, waist, hips, etc... It's a never ending cycle of trying to improve on nature. No matter what you have done, you'll never be perfect. Every time you fix one thing, you'll find something new to dislike about yourself.

Confidence has to come from within. No ammount of surgery, makeup, clothing, etc... can give it to you.

Be happy with who you are. Work on your self esteem and confidence level. Find your assets, and maximize them. Then learn to minimize your flaws and imperfections. You'll be happier in the long run, you won't spend a fortune on surgery, and you won't get yourself into the cycle of always finding new flaws.

Answer 10

how about you send me a pic of yourself through the email and ill tell you. [e-mail]. seriously, im not trying to be a perv or anything. listen hear. it sounds like you just have a low self esteem problem when it comes to your looks. if others are telling you you are cute or pretty then why not believe them. thats why is said send me a pic. ill be honest with you in my eval. ;if your nose isnt really big then why change it. when talking about proportions, no one on this earth is proportionate. your nose might make you who you are. it might define your face as you. depending on your age, you might see things a little differently when you get older. you have the right to try to make yourself perfect but you will never get there. perfection is not for this world. the more you try to perfect the outside the worse you might get on the inside. you have to draw a line with appearance. thank God for what you have and who you are. and dont be so picky with yourself.