me and my husband were having a conversation about ex's and he told me that he is still cool with some of his. He said that they established the no sex rule years ago, but if they need him for anything he'll be there for them and vice versa. I say that's a bunch of bull. So if that's the case I should be able to do anything for my ex if he should need me and vice versa. Since I'm married I feel I shouldn't need him for "anything" Am I being too sensitive?
2007-01-16 06:29:13 · 7 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, how is it that you have married this man and are just finding out that he still has a level of closeness to his ex's that you find uncomfortable?
Second, it is dangerous to keep TOO much closeness with an ex, but in itself, as long as HE knows where the boundaries are, you will likely do more damage trying to make too big a deal out of it.
Third, don't start up things with your former flames just to prove that what's good for the goose is good for the gander; in that case YOUR ex'es might get the wrong idea and you wind up tempted beyond yoour resitance to do something that your husband's not really even thinking about.
Finally, talk to him about this. In all you get, get understanding.
2007-01-16 06:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by The Mokoda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a no sex rule, the key is to put limitations on those relationships so that the temptation never gets a chance to bloom. He's either naive or like another answerer said, setting things up or hiding something. You aren't being too sensitive, but be careful that you aren't being possessive, especially if this was a theoretical question as opposed to an actual situation.
2007-01-16 14:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he should stay away from his ex's. Either your husband doesn't realize how easy it is to get back in bed with an ex or he's setting up the possability to do so in the future.
2007-01-16 14:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being unreasonable..........marriage means the ex's gotta go!
And no, I am not married. But if I was, I wouldn't want some "ex" nobody coming around asking MY HUSBAND to solve thier problems...let them get their own damn man!
2007-01-16 14:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your being rational, thats all
2007-01-16 14:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not not too sensitive
2007-01-16 14:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by + 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE YOUR NAME
2007-01-16 14:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by star-e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋