is my husband cheating on me again?

Question

my husband cheated on me 3 yrs ago and has yet shown an ounce of remorse he still works with this woman and he seems to think that it is no big deal. his behavior has led me to believe he is at it again. a couple weeks ago we got in an argument and when i tried to tell him that i still haven't healed from this, he rips into me and how i make him feel and then continued to put me down. i have no proof except for a few white lies that he was willing to throw our marriage away for because he didn't want to tell me the truth. i have been on numerous websites on cheating and they don't pertain to my dilema. so is he at it again?

Answer 1

It sounds like it. Is this other women married? If she is have you told him? Don't say no because you don't what your husband to get into a fight?Anyways why have you allowed your husband to still work with this women.Of course he going to think its know big deal. And he rips it into you how you made him feel and continues to put you down. You tell him yes that's right you put us here, with your cheating heart. Girl you need to till him. My husband cheating for yrs. And this last affair he had he could not keep lien about it. The whore lived right down the street. And she was his best friend girlfriend and this women sleep with my husband brother. So my husband couldn't keep her a secret from me. But it took my husband a yr. to tell me the truth. I took his sorry a s s back again, and again, and again. And every time I did he was sorry. Am never going to do that again, am staying home.Ya right. If you feel he is cheating and you feel it in your gut he's cheating. Like you said you don't have prove but your gut tells you he is. But we live in a world that to prove someone guilty you have to have physical prove. So what are you waiting for? Go get it.It's time YOU play I spy.Keep a journal and make sure he don't find it. But you have to play cool and act like the loving wife, if you want answers. Write down every time he comes home, days he gone, your checking out his pattern. You know what I mean. Look at his cell phone bills. If he is the one who opens up the mail. Do you Know how to open mail up without the person knowing? I do. e-mail me in I'll tell you how.Girl stop b i t c h i n g at him in I bet you will find your answers. And I know sometimes the answers are going to hurt.But really YOU need to know.The more you just set around in not find out, the more your going to be depress, again. Look it's not easy when we find out our man is cheating, but I tell you this, when they do it a second time and 3rd and 4th time it never hurts like the first time. Don't get me wrong it's still going to hurt. Like when my husband cheating so many times on me I didn't even cry no more, I didn't lose no sleep over it no more. Life goes on. I know its a hard long road . For me I just foces at the end of the tunnel. I knew I would be OK. Sometimes the pain of hurt and loneliness pain me so bad, I felt like jumping out of my skin. It's like you don't want to be you.. But I starting healing, by the grace of God. and reading I starting reading self help books. Like Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger has some really good ones. like ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives.Take care.

Answer 2

u should have left him when he should no remorse, and when he turns your conversations around and u become the problem, when you have a problem. without remorse it means he was never sorry and admits no guilt, or wrong. what does the truth do anyway, as u already know by how he is acting, he doesn't take to confrontation, even if he is the one in the wrong. why put up with it, why not divorce him, and take your half and go, and u won't have to worry about the cheating anymore? think we teach people how to treat us, by allowing them to disrespect us and cheat on us, with no consequences. sometimes we just have to leave, living alone is better than living with a cheater and being unhappy. if he was never remorseful than he wasn't sorry, and learned nothing, and has no respect for u, if he couldn't even acknowledge that what he did to u hurt u deeply. got to love yourself, if u don't u will continue in these bad relationships where u are treated less than what u are. when we live and accept this from someone, we get low self worth, insecurity, and eventually have a good chance of becoming mentally ill. because we allow things, we compromise our beliefs, because we are afraid to be alone, we fear the future so we stay where we aren't loved. what a slap in the face to u, if he cheated once than theres always a chance it will happen again.

Answer 3

Well, it's a great situation to be in and since he doesn't seem to be remorsefull, that makes it twice as bad. You may have to really start doing so researching to find out. No one can truly answer this question unless it's been witnessed by you or a trusting source, whether he's meeting someone; talking on the phone (which is a hard one) or anything else. I have friend in the same boat and she's done nothing to fix or find out if he's doing it again and she's miserable (but she's bringing it on herself since she's not dealing with it (again) ). It's to take the gloves off per say and start finding things out. If you find out it's true; you'll know waht to do; if you find out nothing's going on, then you're fine but you'll still have those old issues to resolve and if he's not willing to and doesn't think it's a big deal; then it's time to change your way of thinking about your marriage I'm sorry to say =(

Answer 4

He has two serious issues. The first one is alcoholism. This disease will kill him eventually and make you and the rest of his family as sick as he is if you don't get into a program like al-anon. Their disease becomes your obsession in a way. You can't control when and if he drinks, but you can learn how to handle your feelings when he does irresponsible things due to drinking. His second issue is cheating and he does that for any number of reasons; low self-esteem, serious trust issues pertaining to you and he, the thrill of the chase, the rush when he doesn't get caught. I doubt if you took alcohol out of the equation he would stop cheating. His head will be clearer, but he still needs counseling for both issues, preferably by two different specialists, to maintain sobriety and work on remaining faithful. You can organize an intervention to get him sober and he may then be more receptive to couples counseling to work on the infidelity. He may hate you initially, but soldier through the anger. It's the disease talking. He will eventually thank you. Be prepared, it may take several tries on both issues to see success. Good luck, stay strong, my thoughts are with you on this one.

Answer 5

Once a cheat, always a cheat. If he still works with this women, then all the more likely hood that he is still cheating. I knew someone who got married, but still kept cheating on his wife with this girl from work. His so called bit on the side. Get out of your marriage now, it's not worth the worry & heartache !!!!

Answer 6

I would insist that you both go to counseling. If he still loves you he would care about your feelings and wouldn't try to put the blame back on you. People cheat only when they aren't getting what they need out of their current relationship, whether it's sexual fullfillment, emotional, spiritual or all three. If you want the marriage to work ask him to go to counseling. If he won't go then divorce him and move on to greener pastures! When one door closes another one always opens and usually to a better situation. Improve the one you have through counseling or upgrade!

Answer 7

Go with your instincts Sweetie. Chances are that he is cheating again. Women know these things. I bet if you checked his cell bill you would find he calls her all the time. He still works with her....Oh I wouldn't allow that. They see each other everyday..she probably spends more time with him then you do. I can tell this is tearing you apart....get out now and find the someone who will be true to you. I hear there are still some good guys left.

P.S. Please let me know if you find any of the good ones..I'm still looking. ;-)

Answer 8

It is very hard for somebody that got cheat on to forget,you can forgive,but never forget.you can wait until you have an argument to try r to explain how you fell and trow it in his face.Take one day when both of you are calm and try to talk to him.the problem is you are the one that decide to stay even though he cheated,and if he did once he will probably do it again.so it is in your hands.

Answer 9

Dear,
The key word is AGAIN!
How many times does he need to disrespect you?
He puts you down?
He cheats on you and you stay with him?
He lies to you?
You need to get some self respect and not ask but DEMAND to be treated better.
If he does not respect you maybe you don't respect yourself and he sences this as permission to disrespect you.

Answer 10

He never stop seeing the homewrecker. And guess what you need to put your foot down, make a new statement in 2007, you will not settle for less than your BEST.