I swear on the bible I am not lying, listen to this ok ?

Question

I have stated in the past and a lot of you think I am lying about this, but I swear to all of you I am not. I just don't know what to do.........
My wife is too good to me. She rarely does anything for herself of course she takes care of herself looks/body wise, but she caters to me too much. Im really serious, she is always cleaning the house, and constantly cooking or baking something, I swear to all of you im not lying.
I know a lot of guys say this is way rare, and I should be lucky, but I feel I don't do enough back. I take her to dinner but that is too easy. She is like a slave to me, I never even lift a finger, she always has my clothes when I get out of shower, always makes sure I am fed, drinks, let's me watch football when I want, she really doesn't complain, it's just I think she should do more for herself, and when I tell her this, she says she's happy being this way. I swear it stems from childhood cause her mother was exactly like this. Any suggestions to appreciate her

Answer 1

Send her to the spa for a pampering day! While she's gone, get a maid service so she can relax once she gets home! Have a bottle of her favorite wine when she gets home. You can also cook dinner for her or have it catered. I would pass out if my husband did all that lol :)

Answer 2

It's clear from what you write that your wife cares abt you a whole lot more than you do abt her, hence your concern of not doing enough back. I guess, you appreciate her efforts, otherwise why would you ask that question. All you need to do is show that you appreciate what she does for you.
Of all the people you are the one who knows best how to make your wife happy. Watch out for things that make her happy, things that light up her face with a smile. Spare her petty squabbles and unnecessary arguments. Show little tokens of appreciation of her efforts by complimenting her regularly on her looks (this colour looks great on you! or this dress is very becoming in shows off your great (whatever part of body you love most), her cooking skills or anything else she's done for you.
Love her and let her feel loved.
Listen to her, stroke her hair/skin where she loves it. Make her feel special to you in many ways.
You don't need to do any grand gestures, just be there for her when she needs you most and warm her with your love.
A woman like this is difficult to come by in the emancipated society of today. Consider yourself lucky!

Answer 3

Buy her flowers or a gift certificate to a spa or somewhere she can be pampered. I am not quite as devoted as your wife is, but I do a lot for my husband and the kids. If you're an artsy soul, maybe write her a poem? My hubby wrote me a haiku on a scrap of paper at a stoplight....it means more to me than just about anything else he has ever given me.

Answer 4

Tell her you already HAVE a mother and that you don't like being spoiled so much! Tell her you want a WIFE and a LOVER, not a mother. Tell her you want equality in the relationship, that you want to share the burden of the housework and cooking and that you can pick out your own clothes. Tell her to get a hobby so she can stay busy in some other way.

Answer 5

i am the same way with my husband. it's how i was raised. i get great enjoyment out of taking care of everything. all i ask in return is his appreciation. say thank you. if you don't feel that's enough, give her a surprise footrub or present. i love getting perfumes, chocolates and jewelry. my husband once made an appointment for me at a very upscale spa to have a day of beauty and relaxation and when i got home, he had my favorite dinner on the table for me and after dinner gave me a very personal massage to top it all off. i loved it!

Answer 6

Have her friend invite her out shopping. You go home and prepar a four course meal. Tell her sometimes you would like a hot dog for dinner. She sill get the hint. Also, some women keep busy so that they do not have to talk to anyone. I would look into this possibility.

Answer 7

Send her flowers for no reason. Thank her for everything she does for you. Help her out sometime (cooking dinner, whatever!). Get her a day at the spa to spoil her. Take her somewhere that SHE would like to go (ballet? whatever floats her boat!). Bring her home a present (also for no reason). Just do little things that show, your thinking about her, and you appreciate everything she does for you... and that you enjoy doing things for her too.

Answer 8

I am exactly like her! I'm a giver not a taker. It makes me feel good just to hear my husband say thank you when I do stuff for him. Just knowing he appreciates all I do makes me feel all warm inside. He does little things for me to show his appreciation: takes me to dinner, takes care of me when I am sick, and brings me little gifts home. But if you really want to do something to show your appreciation to her~ buy her a nice piece of jewelry. Something that will make her smile every time she wears it because she knows that you bought it cause you love what she does for you!

Answer 9

you can't change her if her mother was also this way but you can do things like surprize her now and then with special things like perhaps jewlery or something she would like for herself whether it is a new tv or even set up an appointment for her somewhere she can get a spa treatment and makeover, things that she won't do for herself.

Answer 10

dinner, buy expansive things, like a NEW car, trip to a spa for anything she wants, shopping spree, tell her that you love her every day!.....romantic gesters, like comeing home with flowers, make her feel special on a daily basis.