was it abuse that my ex- boyfriend told me all the time i m ugly and fat and no one will ever want me. he makes me do things that i dont wanna do and if i dont do it he gets mad and tells me no one will ever want me and i m digusting. he has forced me to do things with him that i never wanted to do and i did because if i didnt he would hit me. i have found out that he had videotaped the things i have done and showed his friends and his brother. i loved him alot and we were together for 4 1/2 years and now because of all that i feel that i have to do wat they want or they will leave me bec i m not good enough and will never find anyone else bec i m not pretty and i m not a model so no one will love me and i dont know how to be different i was with him for so long and he was my first. i just dont know how to change and get over that. idk wat to do can anyone help?
2007-01-16 06:18:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are definitely a victim! There are several forms of abuse such as emotional, mental, physical and sexual. No one has any right to hit you, call you names, make you do things that you don't want to, or belittle you. There is a way out of this situation and you are not alone. If you are afraid of what he might do to you should you decide to leave, you have the option of filing a protection order against him or going to your local women's shelter. I'm not sure what state you live in, but in PA you can file a protection order against him to not contact, stalk, harass, or physically abuse you. You can also contact the police in your area for assistance/possible charges against him for videotaping you without your knowledge. A great resource is the National Coalition of Domestic Violence. They can get you in touch with your local domestic violence program for counseling (free of charge), the abuse shelter, and an advocate to assist you through this process. Just remember you are not alone and that there is a lot of people out there just ready to help you out.
2007-01-16 06:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing you have to do is realize that ,you did nothing wrong.he was abusing you and you were being victimized.the next thing that you need to do is find yourself a counselor,and star working on the self esteem issues that you now have because of him.and move on with your life,and you can find some one else,I know what I am talking about from personal experiences of my own. I had a boyfriend who treated me the same way that your ex boyfriend treated you,and then one day after I had enough of being abused he came home from work and found an empty house.and was shocked because he didn't't think that i had any where else to go.and at that time i didn;t have any where to go.but i made my own way just fine.and i made sure to keep reminding myself that i was the victim in that situation,and today i am engaged to a most wonderful man who loves me for the person i am and not who he wants me to be,and he doesn't force me to do anything that i don't want to.so chin up girl and keep your faith strong,you can get past everything that has happened to you and move on to a better life. references personal experiences
2007-01-16 15:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by LaRie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, you need too get away from this abusive person he is not in love with you at all what he is into is controlling you & make you feel low of yourself & self esteem he is no good for you also he can not speak for other men or boys only they can .he is emotional abusive & physical I'm guessing or assuming that hes also sexually abusive . You need too go to counselling also too found out why you don't like yourself hun you have too like & love yourself before anyone else can . Beauty is not the outside of a person it's the inside of a person outside is only skin deep the inside goes too the core of you thats what people or men are interesting in you also have too build your self esteem hun you have too beleive in yourself first & foremost ,so Please dump this guy tell him too take a flying leap .I bet anything your are very beautiful !! Dump his sorry rear in !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck & Beleive hun you can do anything you put your mind too !!
2007-01-16 14:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel a little bit I went through some of the same things ur doing through now. Me I'm a strong person but it took me a while to find myself. I know you love him but you have to love yourself first!! IF you don't love you who will. I know it's hard, but he tells you no one will want you because he wants to keep you and control you. And if you feel he has stepped over the line with the video you let him know that. Don't be afraid to at least tell him how you feel.
2007-01-16 14:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Robin S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal abuse. You should get out of this relationship. It will only get worse. Do not do anything you don't want to do.
2007-01-16 14:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by finallyfree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that dude is nasty, dump the bum, your fine, he only tells you thats stuff because he is not good enough for you, and he knows it.
2007-01-16 14:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, emotional abuse.
2007-01-16 14:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Who Knew! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋