I'd love to start talking to this guy who works in a shop i visit very often, i've never spoken to him before and if things go well, i'd love to ask him out to a coffee or something like that...the thing is, i've never had a boyfriend before and it's the first time i'm in this situation as i am 16 and i am completely scared of rejection. What do you think i should do? I'd appreciate any advice! Thankyou... :-)
2007-01-16 05:56:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Now you know how guys feel! First find out if he's available, make sure he's not too old (don't want him to get arrested!), then mention something you really want to do like see a particular movie or get a burger or something. If he doesn't take the bait, ask him if he would like to come along.
If he says no, you can still be friends, there's nothing wrong with taking a risk.
Look at it from his perspective. Imainge you work in a shop and talk to a guy each day and suddenly he asks you to a movie. If you're not interested, is he suddenly the biggest dork ever? No, he just gave it a shot and you rprobably think it's cute that he asked. He feels the same way.
2007-01-16 06:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just strike up a conversation with him. (Example: "You got something in your hair." Then bang! you got conversation. (Now you know there's nothing in his hair, but you're looking for a reaction.) And really, how many 16 yr olds drink coffee? That's new game to me... (LoL) And as far as rejection, think, there are other guys out there too. He ain't the only adonis on the planet, ya now!
=)
2007-01-16 06:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Da Mick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coffee???who are you kidding. Just tell him you think he would be fun to talk to and you feel like talking. Meet at a place close to your home, make sure someone knows exactly where you are. Have a Coke, conversation and cute looks; but keep it safe and have fun. If he rejects you, don't blame yourself. He has a reason other than you, we can't see.
2007-01-16 06:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by blou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see why not.but don't just go in like a lamb to the slaughter house. check on his background first to make sure he's a good guy and has nothing bad to hide.if he's very handsome chances are many girls are already after him,make sure he's not a casanova.and lastly,please don't neglect your studies.and when you do go out with him,make sure someone else knows about him and where you will be.good luck!
2007-01-16 06:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by giovellin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if rejection is worse than never knowing. I say rejection lasts a moment, not knowing lasts forever.
2007-01-16 08:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by neil s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is a funny thing. It can make you or break you. Ask yourself if he rejects you will you take it personal? or if you don't ask him will you be able to live with the what if?
2007-01-16 06:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by creolekitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in your own league. Let him ask you out and then go talk to your parents about it. They will be ultimately responsible for your actions. Sorry, I speak from experience
2007-01-16 06:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by KIB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and do it. Rejection is really tough, but it won't kill you, and you might gain a good friend.
2007-01-16 07:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should act normal, and be prepared if he s not interested,
and in that case don t worry cause you will always be able to find the love of your life.
2007-01-16 07:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Diextro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it. Once you ask him, tell me what happend, and if it was a good idea. I'm thinking of doing the same thing. :]
2007-01-16 06:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋