I used to be wild in the bedroom but things changed after having two kids. We have sex but only like once a week. Now my husband wants us to be more wild but we have a 3 month baby in the room. We are planning on moving her out soon, but in the meantime I am not too crazy about getting crazy in the bedroom with her in there. Plus at her age she is such a light sleeper, everything wakes her up, I really am not up for sticking her pacifier back in her mouth while we are doing some crazy position. My husband doesn't understand. Has anyone else been in this position (no pun intended)?
2007-01-16 05:44:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I must add that the baby's room is under construction, they still have a build a wall to it, so it is impossible to move her out at this moment, another 2 weeks probably.
2007-01-16 06:01:28 · update #1
Absolutely! I think every one who has had kids has at one point or another.
Tell your hubby that it makes you uncomfortable and that you are not enjoying yourself, but that once you move the baby to her own room - GAME ON!! I think men need to know exactly when things are going to change in order to deal with the situation at hand. If he knows things are going to get better soon, he may be more likely to relax in the mean time.
Hopefully he will listen and respect your feeling about this. Good Luck!
2007-01-16 05:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That 3 month old baby has your undivided attention all day long and rightly so. However there comes a time when your husband needs a little of your undivided attention as well!!!!!
I suggest you settle the older children into bed, feed and diaper the baby for the night, move him/her to another room for a few hours and get wild with your husband.....you BOTH need to take care of each other and yourselves otherwise your relationship will suffer and deteriorate, leaving you with 3 kids to raise by yourself. If you have family (yours or the In-laws) willing to babysit the little ones at their residence for the evening that would be even better, then you can get as wild as you want without anyone ever hearing or seeing a thing.
Good luck to you!!1
2007-01-16 06:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be a good parent- do not put things(no pun intended) in your child's face, chances are they'll learn from your habits and your children will catch on and repeat what they see. Your children and are stages where they learn what they see, and, even worse, they may have mental scars. You should try, in whatever way possible, to your husband and explain that there is a short wait before this child is out of your bedroom- and the wait will be worth it, until then he can just hang tight for things to return to /normal wild. Since he is your devoted husband, he should understand and be waiting for you in the meanwhile. Good luck, women are very persuasive and intelligent- use both
2007-01-16 05:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you dont want to do it only because you do not want to disturb your baby, then you both have to find a solution to keep the baby away for that time. But if you just dont feel like getting wild even otherwise, then I think it is called mid-life crisis and you will get over it sooner or later.
2007-01-16 05:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your delimma. As soon as the little one moves out of the bedroom in her own room, you can get crazy again and rekindle the fires of love. You can turn into a crazy woman again.
2007-01-16 05:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you can move the baby out of the room, then have your fun.
2007-01-16 06:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him understand that this is not appropriate until your baby is in a room of their own. If the baby wakes up let only him deal with it.
2007-01-16 05:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Bad excuse girl. PUt the baby in the other room! Get ya freak on!! HURRY! Before hubby finds someone else who's willing to do the nasty and put her kids in the room down the hall!
2007-01-16 05:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do you really think that 3 month old baby is gonna know whats happeneing anyhow? If he wants to get nasty, do it, dont use the baby as an excuse!!
2007-01-16 05:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a babysitter for a few hours or let the grandparents watch them for a while.
2007-01-16 05:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by MD 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋