Im 14 and at the age of 12 i told my mother that i was being sexually abused by my step dad . It had been going on since the age of 7 and now my mom is wanting a divorce from him. I feel so guilty because i have a younger brother who says that im the one that screwd up the family. Every day the guilt gets harder and harder to live with. I feel like if i hadnt told my mom then things would be ok and we would still be living together.
So my question is... what do i do? should i tell my mom that i need professional help bc in all reality i really do. should i just keep quiet and let my mother deal with everything? and what about my brother? how do i tell him that i didnt mean for our family to break apart? there are 2 sides of this story and im willing to talk to anyone. my yahoo im is eggowaffles_andrea@yahoo.com. Im only willing to talk to ppl who will help me with my problem!
2007-01-16 05:28:09 · 7 answers · asked by hartbreakr_girl14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You did the right thing. Why should you feel guilty? I suggest that you do go to counseling so you won't have that guilt on you. You should be proud of yourself for being so brave and strong like that. Don't you know there are alot of people who are twice your age and they are not that brave or strong. Take care of yourself and don't be afraid, light up your own life.
2007-01-16 05:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy that you finally told your mom! This guy should be put away for life! Your mom should have already contacted police and had him arrested. If she didn't, you should. Your younger brother does not understand things right now. He will forgive you and even feel bad when he gets older and comprehends what has happened. If your step father is still in the home, you may want to request to live with a grandparent or other family member. Counseling is good!!!!
2007-01-16 13:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT the kind of question you should let people on this site solve for you or advise you on! You need to seek help from someone who is trained and certified to help you. There may also be legal issues involed, and unless one of us (I know I'm not) is an attorney or law enforcement official, you certainly should not seek nor act on legal advice from us!
I realize that in a sense I too am giving advice, but I'm telling you, the solution to a complex and serious matter like this requires much more than you can get from a random group of strangers.
My prayers are with you nonetheless.
2007-01-16 13:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by The Mokoda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first, I'm sorry this has happen to you, no one should have to deal with things like this, It is very hard, but as time goes bye, you and your brother will get better. He just does not understand right now, he will when he gets older. Yes you should tell your mom you need professional help because you do. If you don't get help with it now it may hurt you in the long run with your marriage, ect, But just trust me IT WILL GET BETTER WITH TIME. until then keep your head up.
2007-01-16 14:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by babycake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not fair for your brother to blame you. you shouldn't have to go through that kind of abuse, its not right. you did the right thing by tellin your mom and your brother will understand one day. you should not feel guilty at all. you should probably tell your mom you need professional help it will help you alot if you can talk to someone, who is trained in helping people with their problems. your brother is another story, if he doesn't know what happend then maybe you should tell him, tell him that your step dad was hurting you and that it is bad, help him understand. good luck!!
2007-01-16 13:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by maddog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I would tell you one thing... u did not break up ur family sounds like the step father did... tell ur mom u want to go to counseling over the issue and ur brother is lashing out and upset don't take it personally he maybe too young to understand the whole picture. ur mother is doine the best thing she is your protector, friend, and mother.
2007-01-16 13:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM!
You brother doesn't know what he is speaking about for HE WASN'T THE ONE BEING ABUSED!
Please go to the Police Officer at your school and tell them and they will Contact Family Services and start an investigation!
Thanks, RR
2007-01-16 13:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋