2007-01-16 05:20:36 · 10 answers · asked by Nona B 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
positive reinforcement
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stop buying him everything he asks for and tell him that if he goes to school every day for a month (for example), he'll get something as a reward.
my biology teacher gave us snickers bars when we read the chapters ahead of time and volunteered to answer questions in class. it worked.
2007-01-16 05:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First check out the school and make sure that the problem isn't due to school environment (one of my kids used to get PEED on!) or some sort of legitimate issue with learning.
Then, if no amount of talking works, it may be time to be creative and be a hard a *ss. We once dropped our I refuse to go/you can't do cr*p about child to an unfun socio economic level. Out went everything that child ever, thanks grampa!, except a mattress/pillow/blanket, 3 changes of clothes, and his school supplies. We had a long discussion on how people who don't finish school often end up pay check to paycheck, living as best they can on minimum wage. Meals out, sporting events, and driving are luxuries that he wouldn't be able to afford. Thus, those went away, too!
He had a Saturday job as a grocery bagger, so he had to start walking. In MN that is not fun! It did take a couple of months. He still is a very strong willed and independent person. These days, he is a very highly sought after computer guru and co-teaches at a local tech school. Couldn't be prouder.
You will have to hold your ground w/ whatever course you decide. Caving in is worse than doing nothing. Once a teenager knows you won't make him toe the line, it's all over.
2007-01-16 16:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that there's really anything YOU can do, but if your child has anything to look forward to at school - be it friends, or just one class or teacher during the day, that can be a big help. Also, I've always found that if you just decide to have a positive attitude about a class, it's a lot more enjoyable and you learn a lot more. I'm not sure how you could communicate this with your child, but it's just what I've learned.
Something else that might work is that if he or she has certain career goals, you could point out how doing well in school now will pay off in the future - but if you sound preachy, it probably won't work. 'Tis a tricky subject.
2007-01-16 13:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to tell him/her the good things about school. Like how in a few years they will make better money if they attend school. Or how boring it will be at home. Or you could you try a rewards setup. If they go to school every day of a week, that weekend they get some sort of prize or reward, such as they get to have a friend over or get to choose where they want to go if you all go out for dinner. There are several methods to try to make school seem exciting or rewarding (both of which it really is).
2007-01-16 13:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Abbey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he/she is having problems at school academically or socially. If it is academic: Think of something you once tried to learn how to do, like a sport, and when you failed miserably. Think of the thing that was so hard to learn how to do that you just gave up. Now think of how it would feel if school was that thing that was so hard to do. How would it feel to have to get up every day and face that thing that was too hard for you to do?
Socially: Middle school can be a hard time socially. Maybe your child feels left out etc. She/he needs encouragment and positive feedback to have a positive self esteem. Talk to the teachers at the school to see what is going.
First of all - talk to your child to see what is going on.
A change of school sometimes helps.
2007-01-16 13:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by Elsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to watch a team of landscapers on a saturday, ask him if he would rather weed yards all day seven days a week in the hot sun or sit at a desk in an air-conditioned office for five days a week.
2007-01-16 13:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by anon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why he/she doesn't want to go - friends, grades, etc. Fix any problems that may exist and don't make it comfortable to stay at home.
2007-01-16 13:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by sa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him/her that if they don't get a good education they will be a loser flipping burgers or greeting people at Walmart for a living.
2007-01-16 13:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him speak with an adult who is living on minimum wage because of no education.
2007-01-16 13:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kenneth F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u wanna go to work....the feeling of getting up and doing something during hte day doesnt change with age or what it is...u still dont wanna do it
2007-01-16 13:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋