My husband's ex girlfriend; who he has two daughters with recently stopped letting the kids have contact with him. I think what happened was she wanted him to do something for the kids and he didn't do it a timely enough manner for her liking. She has always threatend to not let him see his kids when they are into it. I think it has something to do with child support payments also. He just started back working one month ago. We were married 2 mos. ago and now she let's them come around again. What's she doing?
2007-01-16 05:13:47 · 14 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My fiance and I were in a similar situation a few years ago. His ex would always threaten to not let him see his son but it was always when things didn't go her way. She used the child as a pawn to get what she wanted. Finally, he went to court and had the child support and visitation amended so not he doesn't have to deal with the ex at all. It's been three years now and so far it's been working really well.
I would say the whole thing is just manipulation on her part. She has no right to keep the children from their father unless she can prove he's unfit. She may being doing this for no other reason then she changed her mind and now it's convenient for her. I would strongly suggest he get the visitation changed. That way, the court decides when he gets to see his kids and the ex has no say in the matter. It will save you both a lot of headaches down the road, trust me.
2007-01-16 05:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is you really shouldn't get involved. It sounds like she is keeping the kids from him when he doesn't pay child support. Legally she can not do that. It doesn't matter if he is paying child support or not. He still legally has the right to see his kids. Most women do not see it that way. He can always contact his attorney and tell them what she is doing. But you also have to think of it another way. If he is not paying child support she can always call DHS on him and have him arrested for not paying. She can legally do that.
2007-01-16 05:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by jeter2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to make him be responsable for his kids. He NEEDS to pay her child support. NO if ands or buts. Maybe you need to take a look at what kind of person he is before you go into this relationship any further with him., These are called sighns. Pay attention to them or you may be in the same situation as her some day and go AH HA now I know how she felt.
2007-01-16 05:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever she is doing, she can't keep him from the kids even IF he's not paying child support. If he's broke he's broke...it's a part of life. I can understand how she's be mad though. I don't think it's that serious if she's letting them come around.
2007-01-16 05:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by hinshaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get visitation rights to see his children then she has no say on when and where he can visit them it will all be pre-arranged I hate it when biotches do this crap to guys who actually want to see their children..... and you as the new wife I hope you can love his children just as he does and dont talk bad about the mother in front of them even if she does things wrong. Have a Great Life!
2007-01-16 05:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i htink maybe she grew up and realized there his kids too and he has the right to see them especially if hes paying or getting ready to pay child support, just let it be for now butif she starts again tell him to contact dhs and explain the situstion and that he wants to see them.
2007-01-16 05:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by amethyst m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too bad she is using children as pawns. Maybe she feels better having him see the kids since you're in the picture.
2007-01-16 05:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like her philosophy on the whole situation is " you have to pay for what you want"
2007-01-16 05:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by hartbreakr_girl14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definately controling your husband via the children.
2007-01-16 05:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋