when she calls at 11 am to see if you are in-do you politely say yes i'm in dear-do you shout down the phone and say where the F*** else would i be i live hear and i thought you did too-or do you just say nothing and hang up.
2007-01-16 05:09:17 · 44 answers · asked by head up guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
,'Hi, oh it would be so easy to shout down the phone, but don't. Play it cool, so cool that her tongue will stick.I wouldnt put the phone down on her either.If she rang and said were you at home, i would reply very cool a simple yes, i would not add any thing esle and wait for her to say some thing.Never say any thing other then what is asked or you.That way she is competly thrown, and will not know where she stands if and when she arrives home do the same thing, and she will not be able to stay quiet, you won't have to ask, she will tell all ,simply because she will need to hear sound, try it some time.
2007-01-16 05:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you know what millions of women feel like almost every weekend or ateast a couple times a year, anyways chances are the honast to God only way to deal with it is end it because in the end it usually keeps happening, now ofcourse if this is the first time there is a chance you can work it out and she might realize she doesnt want to risk it anymore but that isnt gonna happen unless you make her suffer alittle bit and think she could loose the marriage if its to easy she'll keep doing it. Also for her to go that far theres already been some kind of activity going on to lead up to this more than likely so investigate that although its probly not worth the effort. Sorry but its true I havnt had one man in my life that did this sort of thing stop it or essentially in the end just be a total piece of crap, so good luck Kim
2007-01-16 05:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait...lost your wife? how do you "lose" a spouse?? i mean...is that like losing a shoe? were you and her at the club together? did she get "lost" in the crowd and you just went home without her? if thats the case, you cant be mad that she wasnt home..you left her there.
if you were at the club with her but you drove in seperate vehicles...still how did you "lose" her? unless she went off in the opposite direction and wanted to be lost then you have a problem..i'd say talk to her and calmly ask her just where the HELL she's been all night. if she gives you the run around and tries to make excuses, then you have a problem on your handz. it means more than likely she cheated on you and is trying to hide it. what you do from there is up to you.
on a different scenario..if you were never at the club in the first place, and she always goes out with out you and stays gone all night, you have a problem as well. i can tell you from personal experience that when a woman does things like that...9 times out of 10 she is cheating. women dont stray from home and stay gone all night just because they like the karaoke if ya know what i mean...
as for what to say to her...let her know you're mad, and that you're not going to put up with it. if she thinks you will continue to let the behaviour happen she will think that you dont care and she will keep doing it. put your foot down.
2007-01-16 05:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by jeneric803 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A husband is always tested in everything he does. Pass one test there are more to come. Marriages are a proving ground. Lets assume that your wife was drugged and taken away from you and she does not remember a thing. Why not then try to collect information before you jump to conclusions about something that you at a loss of facts. If you think that your wife is cheating on you, set her up and collect evidence. Judges, friends and family need facts to prove a case. Mere feelings do not do it. Be smart, and maybe you will learn something.
2007-01-16 05:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lynd G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you possibly lose your wife in a club?
Well, sounds like she had a good time.
Sounds like she's got some explaining to do?
Now could it be that she was so happy to just enjoy her freedom for once and JUST maybe stayed the night at a female friend?
If not, then, SHE does have some explaining to do.
Good luck.xx
2007-01-16 06:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you leave without her? you know she came with you..... I wouldn't leave the club until every last person went home, to see if she is there.... Maybe she was in the restroom for a longtime? Maybe she was upset at you for leaving her there so she went to her mothers, or a friend of hers to keep you wondering and to make you mad......
And then again like most people are saying, maybe she is just cheating on you........
Are there issues with your relationship that you have not mentioned here?
I would find out and verify her story before you fly off the handle....
2007-01-16 05:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by DAD_to_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear sounds like you need to talk calmly with her, sure youre mad now but there is probably a valid reason why she wasn't at home and getting mad etc will not help.Ask her what happened and where she stayed, was the club that big that it swallowed her up. I know if I were lost I wouldn't leave without my partner or alone.
2007-01-16 05:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by TRACY K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you say, 'Oh, it's you, dear. I thought it was the locksmith calling to say he left something behind when he was here earlier'. Then you hang up and see if she breaks the land speed record to get back home then. If not, then I'm afraid you may have to give it up as a bad job.
2007-01-16 05:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go about this as an adult. When you talk to her, just simply ask what happened to her at the club, and where she was all night. If you accuse her of doing something before you know all the facts, she will not want to talk to you about it. She will simply get defensive and shut down.
2007-01-16 05:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you lose your wife at a club did you not arrive in the same car? If your car was outside why wouldnt she just go wait in the car? Sounds a bit Fishy
2007-01-16 05:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋