I haven't done anything to her, except falling in love with her son. She said that I'm taking her son away from her. I would never try to severe their relationship. I don't understand why it's so hard for her to let go. He is not her only son.
2007-01-16 05:07:56 · 15 answers · asked by Peaches 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
girl, i went through that myself a year and a few months ago. Me and my husband dated for 8 years and he is not the only son, but she has made it clear to her children he is the favorite one of all, and that i thought it was mean. But she said the same things and all you can do is luv him and show her that you are not taking him away, by visiting them and being friendly. Take her to dinner once in a while and she will start seeing that you are there to love him not take him away. it worked for me so far, but at least she has not made a scene picking out your wedding dress... hehehe..it will be ok, just dont give your fiance the contrary about his mother ok.
2007-01-16 05:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are taking her son away from her, but look at it this way he wants to go. Doesn't he? Its not you, its any woman, so get over that right now. It could be the Princess of Sweden and she would still be hostile. If its important to you to try, enlist her aid in making his favorite meals, and flatter her by telling her how much she means to you both and how delighted she will be, in time with the grandkids, in other words give her something to look forward to instead of just an empty house. If kindness doesn't work and shes still carping on you then do what you need to to limit contact, just make sure first that you have your husband to bes full cooperation and support, or you will spend the rest of your life feeling like a second place beauty queen.
Not all children occupy the same amount of space in a mothers heart, and that could be why shes feeling this deserted.
2007-01-16 13:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've heard the saying when you marry your spouse you marry their family too. Its so true. I would try to talk to her woman to woman, no need to pretend or act. Just be frank with her, tell her you intentions with her son(marriage). Tell her that you respect her and the relationship with her son, but that she needs to respect yours too. This is always hard especially being the only son of hers. I think that you need to ask her what she wants for her son. She may say something like " I dont want you for him"or something like that, but just insist on finding what she wants for him in general. This can help you understand that what she wants for him is different than what he wants for himself. You need to get your Fiance involved as well. I hope this helps a little, Congrats and good luck.
July 07 Bride!
2007-01-16 13:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by cib0385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you attempt to determine if at some future point, this mother is going to try to put her son in the position of choosing between the two of you. If that happens, you will be miserable no matter which choice he makes. You need to have things straight with HIM or it won't matter much how she feels.
2007-01-16 13:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by The Mokoda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are taking her son. Its how it works.
So unless she has some majic potion to keep him a child forever
someone was going to. She should be glad that you have an open mind about this or you would have made the mommy or me declaration long ago. Please tell the dingbat that.
Unless the mom is having sex with him, the wife will ALWAYS win.
2007-01-16 13:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to let go, he is not her baby anymore he is a grown man, and if she really loved him, she would realize he loves you and step out of the picture, she needs to give you both room for your relationship to grow, and also to see that her role is changing as her son grows, she is not " mommy" anymore. Boy I wish my mother in law to be would read this and heed the advice!
2007-01-16 13:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by Marcie E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some mothers are like that. My best friends mother still hates her and they have been married for 11 years in this case he is an only child I honestly dont know what to tell you to do. Sorry
2007-01-16 13:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwww that is sad. Do not feel bad because if that is the case, then no matter what girl it is, she will feel this towards them. Just be kind to her and forget what she thinks about you. As long as it is not affecting your relationship with her son, then you are fine.
2007-01-16 13:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont show her that it bothers you otherwise she will do it more and more. They rejoice in making their son's spouses miserable (so am told by my friends who have experienced it). Just be yourself and live you life...you and her son.
2007-01-16 13:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Riderya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves her son & if he is the baby of the family theres that extra feel she needs to protect him. tell her and him how u feel sit down and talk to let her know ur not stealing him from her and they can still see eachother & nothing will change between them. no one likes to see there baby grow up...
2007-01-16 13:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by MAM_MAM 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋