hi i just wanna know can a straight person turn bi or gay?

Question

ive been straight for 19 years ive also been watching all sorts of porn recently but my head is saying you are gay when i masterbate i think about women i go back to normal its all because i watched gay porn im getting these thoughts but is it a phase i mean dont get me wrong some people say to you are bi some say you are gay but what i dont get people say you have to accept these thoughts how can you accept them when you dont want them how can this happen after 19 years for example you like blue but your head keeps telling you that you like pink some people blame parents or religon thats not always the case ill try my best to get back to normal i dont want to be bi or gay i dropped out of work and colleague because of this please help

Answer 1

You were just fine until you started monkeying around with the Internet.

You seem to be answering your own dilemma. Stay off of the Internet. It's a form of hypnosis.

Go live life.

Answer 2

Can a straight person turn bi or gay?
Yes. I did.

ive been straight for 19 years
And I had been straight for 51 years.

how can this happen after 19 years
It just did, that's all. You're not the only one it happened to. Maybe you'll meet someone else that it happened to and that might help you feel better.

i dont want to be bi or gay
Too bad. You're probably bi.

people say you have to accept these thoughts how can you accept them when you dont want them
Visit http://www.thework.com and fill out a work sheet, and call a volunteer on the hotline to facilitate your work sheet.
Katie (The Work dot com) says, "Every time I argue with Reality I lose, but only 100% of the time."

If you can't accept your reality (and I know I sure had a tough time going through a similar change at age 51), find a counselor/therapist who specializes in these issues. Or one who knows The Work. Or just shop counselors until you find the one you want to work with.

Of course you're stressed. When you come to accept the change, there's hope for peace of mind.

Best wishes and Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi, yourself.

What you're feeling is probably normal. Few people are all gay or all straight, we usually have the potential for sex with both under the right circumstances. And in porn, nothing ever goes wrong and all the participants are physically perfect--the whole object of porn is make you feel aroused. It's not unusual for straight people to get turned on by gay porn. I'm gay and get turned on by straight porn (I think gay porn would overload my circuits!).

Whether you want to be gay or bi or not is not actually a choice for you to make. You are what you are, not what you want to be or what you've been told you're expected to be.

If you're so confused and upset by what's happening to you that you've dropped out, then yes, you need to see a therapist or a counselor who will help you discover who you are and how to deal with it. Maybe you really are straight and you've just been taught to panic at the thought of having gay feelings.

Please believe that whatever the truth about you is, you're going to be okay. Worst case: you're really gay. Then it's better to realize that now and not after you get married. And keep in mind that there are more gays in the world than the entire population of Europe! Good luck, guy.

Answer 4

After reading what you have written my immediate thought was that you are feeling shame, shame is where you think that something is wrong with you, guilt is where you have done something wrong. There is nothing abnormal about these feelings. One suggestion is to rent the movie Kinsey Studies, this might help you to understand what is truly going through your mind. Its normal for instance if everynight you had to eat beef for dinner but there was always a chicken on the table eventually you would have to try the chicken to find out if you really were just a beef eater. Most men have had a homosexual experience. Watching straight porn turns me on because of the guy but I can see myself fooling around with the women just to please him. In this case you may just be experiencing something that you were told was taboo so it may be a turn on for you. Who knows either way it is sex the only thing you should ever feel guilty about is if you are hurting yourself or others. Get a therapist or keep asking questions. Good luck, P.S. Always use condoms no matter what! Laterz

Answer 5

You are reaching an age of sexual exploration. It is possible that you might have some bi tendencies. It is also possible that you never fulfill them or live them out but they are just fantasies.

either way, it's too hard to say whether you are straight, gay or bi at this point -the only one who can really answer this question is you.

Answer 6

I guess you really wont know what you prefer until you've tried right? and if the thought of trying grosses you out then that probably answered your question.
It's never too early or too late to question your orientation. I have a 30 year old friend who has just started to question himself recently. Just do whatever you feel you need to do and dont give a **** what anybody else says.

Answer 7

You've already been given the advice to see a doctor in previous postings. That's the best advice you're going to get.
Seriously.....see a doctor about this. Your problem is much deeper than sexual confusion.....especially if you're allowing it to control your external life. I was gay and I didn't want to be, but I didn't quit my job or drop out of school because of it.
Something much deeper is going on.
See a doctor....and, again.....good luck to you.

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Answer 8

Mujer Bonita is right, it is normal to have homosexual thoughts. I think studies show its something like 85% of the population has them. And thats just the percentage who admits to it, it is prolly more like 98%. It is your actions who determine what you are.

Answer 9

unless you choose to , you don't have to tell anyone except the people you want to get with

keep em wondering I think, while they are busy trying to figure out your preference, steal the ones you want.

seriously though, its ok to like whatever you do, maybe you are bi, so what.

Answer 10

I think your gayness is the last thing you have to worry about. Try working on your grammer and maybe you will not be so gay.