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My sons friend act as if he is a little gay he is only 8,but when ever he comes over to play with my son he always wants to go and play in the room instead of outside.I dont want to call the boy gay if he isn't but i dont want to send a message to my son as if he has to be that way.I dont have nothing bad to say about gay people but i was a little worried.What to do?

2007-01-16 05:07:02 · 11 answers · asked by AMBRASIA C 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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I think you're a little confused about what it means to be gay.

You think the neighbor boy is gay because, at 8 years old, he likes to play with his toys inside instead of outside? And you think playing inside will turn your son gay?

Um, no.

2007-01-16 05:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by EQ 6 · 1 0

At this point in their lives, there really is no definite line of homosexuality for children to begin with, they just play however they want. Also, spending time with children or adults who are "gay" does not predispose them to the same lifestyle. You probably associate with gays and lesbians all the time, and don't even know it, and you aren't gay, right? It's not a disease, people, it's just how they are. Kind of like if you're born white....you really can't do a whole lot about it! If anything, even if your son's friend is gay, spending time with him could teach him acceptance and understanding, which would be a real help in this world today.

2007-01-16 05:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by tmiller 3 · 0 0

Your son has not hit puberty yet. Stop worrying.
There's lots of reasons not to want to play outside. He might not be very coordinated, might not like being cold, might have allergies, might be small and easily picked on, thus having bad experiences from gym class. Plus, if my parents were always pressuring me to play outside, I'd have stayed in my room, too.
The word you're looking for might be "lame." As in, your son is lame and boring because he doesn't want to play outside. Maybe it's because your backyard is lame, or his lame shoes don't insulate very well.
Gayness is correlated to a specific brain structure. Little, if any, of it is conditioned by his childhood. Unless he's the sixth son you've had in a row or something (boys with older brothers are more likely to be gay) he'll be normal. Maybe he'll be a lame, broody poet or something, but he'll write his poems about girls.

2007-01-16 05:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel R 4 · 0 0

Get real! Eight year olds don't know much about sexuality. I have been teaching for 25 years in various elementary schools, so far, only one kid seemed effeminate or acted a little gay and he had specific girlish mannarisms. I really doubt your 8 year old will turn gay. Don't worry yet. Now if this behavior still happens in middle school or teens or he holds his bent wrist in front of his body when he talks, then you may need to be concerned.

2007-01-16 05:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by blou 1 · 0 0

At age 8 he doesn't understand gay, if he's living in a household where this behavior goes on then I would have a problem with it. Nothing against gays but I don't want that around me. Your son will be fine, just continue raising him to the best of your abilities.

2007-01-16 05:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0 0

People don't "turn" gay. They are either born gay or they are not. Kids will typically experiment with each other (same and opposite sex) when quite young as they start having feelings and sensations in different parts of their bodies.

Playing indoors versus outside doesn't mean one is gay...it simply means they prefer indoor activities. Many straight people prefer to be indoors and have hobbies and interests that aren't physical and many gays are quite physically active and athletic.

Please educated yourself more on this issue so you won't worry needlessly or cause yourself embarrassment by making a blanket statement or mentioning a stereotype that isn't correct.

2007-01-16 05:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1 0

I believe your son is too young to be classified as 'gay' already. Give him a chance. If you are really that worried, you will have to pay more attention to when his friends come over to play. You may be a little paranoid right now. Calm down, but keep your eyes and ears open. You may just need to have a talk with him.

2007-01-16 05:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Peaches 1 · 0 0

I accept as true with Ares. Sounds to me like he may be smoking pot. My sister smokes it many times sufficient. while my husband and that i used to stay interior an analogous place of abode along with her, we would continuously know while it replace into "the time" because of the fact the air may be perfumed with air freshener and scented candles. I actual have doubts that your son is gay. some boys purely have their very very own type. I see a variety of of preps, hippie, grunge, gothic, jocks, emos donning tight t-shirts, or having long hair. they're purely doing their teen element. except you notice something concrete, i does not think of too lots approximately it. =) And if he's, he's. there is not something incorrect with comparable intercourse relationships. If that's what they elect that's their selection and as a discern you may desire to be supportive and robust in any way you could.

2016-10-07 06:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by bugenhagen 4 · 0 0

Not you son won't turn a gay. A person can hang around with so many g people and they won't turn in one just because at that...Is no such thing...I saw that before and I keep seen now so don't worry the more you worry the worst you will start to seen things...One thing is truth he will learn to don't discriminate them or have fovia etc... And that make him more macho because he is secure of his masculinity understand?

2007-01-16 05:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0 0

I dont think he is gay...just because..he wants to go in the house all the time....some kids like going in other peoples houses....try not too worry about it....he should b fine

Hope this helps

2007-01-16 05:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by x-Kelly-x 3 · 0 0

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