When you say you forgive that someone but still will not forget the hurts--complete forgiveness? Discuss?

Answer 1

I believe it is complete forgiveness. Heh, You have to realize, that there's a reason you got hurt. You also have to realize that at some point you have to protect yourself from the same thing happening again. You can keep the memory, just keep it locked in a tight lil box so to speak. For referrance purposes only. You don't want the thing that happened to color other things and relationships in your life.

For example: My mother was never ever really nice to me. My father and mother adopted me when I was three. At age ten, I was informed, (in the same breath mind you) that not only was I adopted, but that if it wasn't for my father, that I wouldn't even be there, that she wanted to take me back 3wks after they adopted me.

Through out the years, I've tried to keep at the very least a level , excuse the expression, playing ground, but over and over again, my feelings got shot down. Over and over again she showed her disgust of me, and how irritated I made her. Three years ago, I spoke to her for the last time. It was on Christmas, and the thing that broke the camels back was I said I loved her, to which I heard her silence for a moment and then click as she hung up. I realized that nothing would get any better and that she'd keep hurting me over and over. I decided at that point to call it quits to her being my mother, and now refuse to have anything to do with her.

I forgive her for what she's done. Tell myself that perhaps she just wasn't capable of love, or any other excuse to ease my mind, but I do forgive her, point blank end of story, but that doesn't mean I forget. I remember all the hurt that has been dealt me.

I don't allow the hurt to taint my life, but I use it as a referrance. Something I can compare things too, to help figure things out. That doesn't mean I haven't forgiven her or given the situation to God. He surely has it, and I hope He blesses her richly, I know He's blessed me. I wish her all the best.

I also still have the very few good memories of her. I hold those dear, and while I know it's not healthy for me to be around her, deal with her, I also know where I stand, and am comfortable in my position.

I seem even to this day to keep finding out differant things that she has done, or not done. Lies she's told, but that doesn't change me forgiving her. Yes, a constant process. Having to process the feelings that come with each blow that seems to happen, but also having the feeling of accomplishment in knowing I'm better than that. Knowing where I stand with God and myself, and knowing I'm alright.

Answer 2

It is easy to say "I forgive you" from the mouth, but hard to say "I forgive you" from the heart.

There are some that have claimed to forgive me, but they still hold a grudge. I didn't do any thing but speak bold and blunt and truthful to them. I sleep well at night, for I know what I said, that they claim hurt them deeply, was truth.

Children of God should not practice deceitfulness of any sort, joking or not. A true Christian would not do that, but they continue to be deceitful and hurt others with their actions and words.

They can't forgive, but want others to forgive them. Its hard!!

I forgive them and I don't go around them any more. This way I will not stumble due to their lack of respect to God's Word and control over the worldly ways in them.

Answer 3

its really hard to completely forgive some1 that truly hurt you. u forgive when u can argue with them and never bring up the hurt they gave u again. not that its not there anymore but u dont rely on it to dominate and turn a fight your way. time will lessen the pain but it never goes 100% away, but in time if both parties want to work at it, things can slowly change.

Answer 4

Definitely. Forgive and Forget is two different things, be not deceived. I forgave my 3 year old for knocking down my cellphone and breaking it, but I will never forget, least I leave it in his reach again.

Answer 5

The only way to truly forgive someone is to let go of everything that happened.

Answer 6

Time resolves hurt and given enough time this becomes complete forgiveness.

Answer 7

advantages and need..... it sluggish i do and it sluggish i do not, Its quite puzzling to forgive and forget, some one for instance, which have harm. kill and raped one in all of your relatives member, God says to forgive and forget, yet He tells us in the Scriptures, that he will forgive our sins and in no thanks to sin any extra, meaning He nonetheless save in recommendations what we did and warn us to stay faraway from the bondage and the yoke He took away, So sure small issues i visit forgive and forget, the human portion of me says an eye fixed for an eye fixed, and the non secular section says to heal and bypass on, yet i concentrated visitor with God mercy and help per chance i receives to that aspect i wish so.......exciting question Jimi, Have a good day.

Answer 8

Yo jigga wuh huh?!?

Umm.... just say ur sorry, and be nice to the guy.