My sister and her husband just had a baby together. From the beginning of their relationship they have always told each other about their ex's. He always brags about his sexual relationships to my sister. Before the baby he always made sexual jokes in front of the rest of my family. (Less lately) We felt uncomfortable, but my sister said that he felt comfortable around us. I am very close to my sister so I always dismissed his jokes as just jokes. Him and I have got along from the start. He used to be more open with me at family gatherings, and had called me a few times in the past to say hello. Lately he has been acting very distant with my family. He won't make eye contact at all when he talks to us. He's not affectionate with my sister at all. He work's second shift so he usually get's home at 1:30, in the past month he has had three flat tires and has come home at 4 in the morning. He also joking said to me "what if we had gotten together" , or "my second wife" in front my sister.
2007-01-16 05:00:34 · 12 answers · asked by sindielynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you think is not fact. Butt out. The added responsibility of having a baby has probably sobered him up. He's tired. He's working hard. He has more responsibility. If you start meddling and throwing around accusations or starting rumors, you're endangering the well-being of the baby by trying to create insecurity in the home.
By the way- make up your mind, On one had you say you used to dismiss his sexy little jokes. Then you claim he's acting distant. Then you follow up by saying he's making jokes again. Which is it? All 3? Hardly says "affair" to me. And even if it is, butt out. It's NONE of your business.
2007-01-16 05:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your sister's marriage and you really should stay out of it unless you have actual proof. Getting yourself involved can really cause you a whole lot of grief later. OK, so the guy is a jerk....not your problem really. If you want to confront him, go ahead. I am sure he will just blow you off and deny everything. Hopefully your sister will tire of him soon. Just imagine....if he is behaving this way in front of the family, can you fathom how he is alone?
2007-01-16 13:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have evidence, then this is your sisters problem. Now, I know for a fact that is does not take 2.5 hours to fix a flat, so he is full of crap. Now, what you do to get that evidence is up to you, but be sure it is fool proof or this could turn on you.
2007-01-16 13:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what it is. Only your sister can handle this one. I say two things can happen. Your sister can live with it and hope that it gets better. or: She can take his *** to D-I-V-O-R-C-E court and hit his *** in the pocket. Where it hurts most men in his wallet. What ever she does just be there for her. Listen to her in her darkest moments. You know we all play the fool sometime in our lives. And learn the alimony law
2007-01-16 13:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does you sis think about the lame excuses he has being giving off late. Maybe she is in denial and needs someone to point it out to her....get some proof first.
2007-01-16 13:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by Riderya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that yes he is definately cheating on her theres to many coincidences that you wrote about ive been there and thats a definite red flag.have her start looking for stuff like numbers or marks on the body or clothes like lipstick perfume etc.... if email is avaliable check his account start doing some investigating yo umsy find what youre looking for oh dont forget any weird numbers that come up on cell phones phones etc...
2007-01-16 13:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by amethyst m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your bro in law is a loser, and a cheat, I feel that he has always cheating on your sister. You telling her is not going to make a difference, she will have to make up her own mind.
2007-01-16 13:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is rude and insecure. What you describe could be evidence of an affair. But, without more, I would not come to that conclusion.
2007-01-16 13:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all your brother in law is a jerk.and it is clearly that he might be cheating you need to talk to your sister.tell her what you think and that way if it is true then that way if she finds out she is not alone.
2007-01-16 13:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dulce O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sound like you have a crush on him, oh pls stop it i think he love your sis alot and that why he ignore you cause i don;t want to loss her
2007-01-16 13:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋