My uncle has 3 girls and can't wait for a grandson. He has 2 granddaugthers. When his daugther was pregnant, he prayed for a boy, but it was a girl. He still loves his daugthers and granddaugthers so much but he really wants a boy and when we talk about it, he gets very angry and says that its important for men to have a boy to carry on their name. Do other men feel that way, my fiance was happy for a girl and said a boy is not necessary. How do other men feel?
2007-01-16 04:58:40 · 19 answers · asked by Proud Mother 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My boyfriend was exstatic to learn that we were having a little boy, he would have loved a little girl just as much, but I think it has something to do with being able to bond more with a son by playing sports with him, and teaching him how to do all the "manly things" around the house. Also he was excited because he is a Ray Jr. and always promised his dad that his first born son would be named Ray III, which I went along with.
2007-01-16 05:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think about 20-30 years ago having a boy was very important because they carried on the family name. I know my dad only had one boy and I can tell sometimes that he wishes he had at least one more because us girls don't carry the family name. Now times are different and I can tell that men don't really seem to care about the family name thing. If a man wants a boy it is usually because he wants someone that he can hang out with when he gets older. Men don't really want to go fishing or play sports with their daughters. My husband didn't care that whether we had a boy or a girl, but I could tell he felt relieved that we had a boy just so that he could get that want out of his life.
2007-01-16 13:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by twittoe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just want to relate to you a little story, but of course, keeping in mind that all men are different.
When I was around 10 years old (I'm now 27) I was supposed to be sleeping but instead was listening to my parents, paternal grandparents, and some of their friends chatting from my perch at the top of the landing, unseen by them. It was quite late so I expect they thought I was certainly asleep.
They were all drinking and the subject was brought up of how my grandparents really wanted my parents to have a boy, because Dad was the first son and they wanted him to have a boy to be sure to carry on the name. I, of course, was very hurt by this. Being an only child (my mom couldn't have any more children after me, even though she wanted to), and a girl, I felt terrible. My mom got upset and everyone started arguing.
All of a sudden I heard my Dad's voice snap, "I couldn't care less what you wanted, I have a beautiful daughter, and I wouldn't have traded her for a boy!"
True story that proves not every man needs or wants a son.
2007-01-16 19:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy_Bunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has 2 boys (well will have 2 in February hehe) and he sort of wanted a girl... i know not all men are like that, but he said he had his one boy to carry on his name and that was all he needed. There's something about guys and wanting to pass the family genes along that make them all want a boy.
2007-01-16 13:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think i have met a man yet that didnt want a son to carry on the family name. My husband said he didnt care if our babies was a boy or girl. Then after they were born he wanted to keep trying because he said he wanted a little boy. I think they figure one day the girls will marry and carry on another name and a boy carries on the name forever and keeps passing it on. Im not for sure but i think they think the boys will carry on the genes to.
2007-01-16 13:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 5 months pregnant we will hopefully find out on the 27th what the sex of our baby is. My husband wants a boy, he keeps calling it a boy and praying for one I think its because he is a huge sports fan and he would like to be able to share that with a boy although I told him that girls like that stuff too. I just think its because men feel they can relate more to boys. But alot of men are really protective of their girls and have a stronger bond with their daughters.
2007-01-16 13:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by neicee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband wanted a girl. He would talk for hours about spoiling our little girl rotten. When he found out we were having a boy though he was just as happy. Yeah some guys have a prefrance but I dont think most really care in the end
2007-01-16 13:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has all girls and is fine with that. My dad has one son and one grandson and when he found out my baby was another girl, he was THRILLED and said that if it was a boy he would love it, but he really wanted a boy! His grandson belongs to my sister so he didn't carry on my dad's name...I think it depends on the man.
2007-01-16 13:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the nature of the family, carrying on the family name may be very important. For instance, If there is only one surviving male in a particular family linage, then having a son becomes very important.
2007-01-16 13:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by dopeadevil23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We thought we were having a girl from our ultrasound and my husband was sooo happy and then the next ultrasound, it was apparent it is a boy!!! My husband is the last one to carry on his name and his Grandfather has many grandchildren and great grandchildren but ours will be the only one that will carry on that name! Mostly older generation men are worried about carrying on the family name but its not necessary, just family tradition!!!
2007-01-16 13:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋