okay so me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 months and her mom found out a little bit ago and has banned me for seeing her and she cant hang out with any of her friends they took her phone away and she has to come home after school everyday. We plan on moving into together when she turns 18 so she can get out of her house. but thats 4 months away so i was just wondering if anyone had any advice thanks
2007-01-16 04:48:29 · 11 answers · asked by its all the same to me 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
okay first of all im not wrong for being a lesbian.... god your stupid and the reason her mom banned me is just because im a girl.... she would probably rather have her go out and get pregnant than be with me
2007-01-16 04:56:49 · update #1
Probably just have to deal with it for 4 months. As a parent myself, I would advise you against breaking the mother's rule or even skirting them. It will only make things worse. The 4 months will pass quickly and over time hopefully her Mom will learn to accept her daughter and you.
Good Luck!
2007-01-16 04:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your older than 18, then you should just stay away for 4 months... these days time passes so quickly you'll be surprised how fast it goes and go "its already that time?!?!"
Shes still living at home and probably can't do what she wants till shes 18 so she has to live by her parents rules. Since shes still 17, her parents could still sue you if you are older.
Her mom probably doesn't like the thought of her daughter being a lesbian.... maybe she thinks its just a stage or something. Most moms dream of their kids growing up, meeting a nice guy and giving her grandchildren.... the fact their daughter could be a lesbian or bisexual doesn't even exist.
Just wait out 4 months... if you know the kind of place your girlfriend likes you could use the time to find some nice places (unless shes moving in with you??) If she is moving in with you, use the time to do some serious house cleaning... get rid of things you don't really need, make room for things she'll probably bring and before you know it, 4 months have passed. :-)
I know 4 months seems to long if you can;t be with the one you love but in the end, it'll be worth it.
I hope things works out for you :-)
2007-01-16 13:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by tashasw79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for now since she is living under her mothers roof she has to go with the rules... as far as why her mother is not being open minded and letting you guys have some sort of relationship because regardlesss of what she tells her daughter to do, if you guys are in love and have a realtionship going its not going to be broken up becuase of the mom, and I know you are still in contact with her... Take it slow and see what the future will hold, don't rush into it and unfortunatley you have to sort of obey her mom, unless you tried all solutions possible, why dont you have a sit down with her mom, call her, write her a letter. Express to her the way you feel about her daughter, that way you can reasure yourself as well, is all this drama worth it, do you really want to be with her, cause if it comes down to it, and her family will not accept your realtionship with her, then theres a chance she'll only have you left if she chooses that route.... so think smart sometimes not with your heart, and financially you guys would have to make sure you can handle that!
If its true love then there will be a way, just know it won't be easy, wish you much luck!
...and to anyone who has a problem with the person asking a question being a lesbian, then don't bother, your stupid comments are not going to change there prefrence,
TO EACH THIER OWN!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-16 13:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by prettygirlme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me in high school at the same age: my best friend's family banned me from the neighborhood (I said I was in love with him, but we hadn't done anything--and he was already having sex with a boy they didn't even know about), and wouldn't let him out of their sight until he went away to college and had sex with whoever he wanted (so what did they accomplish except make him hate his family?).
You can live without each other for a few months. I remember that at your age, that seems like a lifetime, but it really isn't. I don't know if it would help, but your friend could try confronting her parents about what they think they're accomplishing by locking her up for 4 months, since it isn't going to change her orientation.
You both have my sympathy, meanwhile. I can assure you that it does get better as you get older, and that this is just one of the many challenges that life has to offer, all of which are survivable.
There is a prayer that applies, believe it or not: "Lord, help me remember that nothing is going to happen to me today that you and I can't handle."
2007-01-16 13:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mother banned you b-cuz the thought of her daughter having "sex" is appauling to her(reguardless if you were a boy or a girl).
People are narrow-minded(this includes the "smart" one that responded as well as the mother) the unknown to is VERY scary to and for them.
IT'S NOT ABOUT SEX ALL THE TIME PEOPLE!!!
(hopefully that helped deter the dummies...srry.... the smarties)
Wait..no im gonna say don't think about the 4 months, u can still c each other in school right? Besides everything will b intensified that much more ;)
2007-01-20 00:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Toy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away for 4 months because you dont want to get in trouble with the law the parent have rights but after this you too can do anything you want 4 months is not that long okay
2007-01-16 12:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm betting her mum isn't too happy with the whole concept, and you just happened to be the unlucky person who had the misfortune of having to face this. Given a few months she'll become more comfortable with the idea... Parents have a big influence and to go against them is quite a stand. I think you should wait and see how it goes. No sneaking!
Of course, it's not too long. 4 months isn't forever.
2007-01-16 12:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Deconstitutionalization 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can indure for 4 months then wait for her. Time flies when your having fun. Do as mom wishes(so mom thinks) and keep it on the down low. dont tell everybody.
2007-01-19 18:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by stl07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all depends on why the mother banned you ? if its something you can help ... go approach her and try to make her love you. If not ... deal with it for 4 months.
2007-01-16 12:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by NA2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only thing you can do is go behind her mothers back until its time to move out. Or sneak in her room late at night. Thats always hot and sexy.
2007-01-16 12:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋