I hate to say it but I thing im falling inlove with someone who isnt my husband we both have such great chemistry and we already made out. My feelings for my husband died along time ago when he would blow me off 24/7 for his friends please give me some advice.
2007-01-16 04:42:59 · 18 answers · asked by starlet *red 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest and up front with your hubby.
2007-01-16 04:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE THINK TWICE BEFORE U LEAVE YOUR HUBBY
TAKE FOLLOWING EXERCISE BEFORE YOU TAKE ANY DECISION:
Exercise :
1. Count good things your husband has done for you.
2. How care he is taking when you are not well
3. Remember the happy moment you have passed with him
4. How care he takes for your children ( if you have children)
5. How he talks about you among their friends.
6. Think about all other positive points of your husband
If you still feel that you should leave your husband take the following exercise
EXERCISE 2
1. Is your other friend is married ?
2. If yes - how the mess created will be resolved.
3. Please make sure that your attraction is not only for a change.
4. Sometimes we look for a romantic moment which is not available with our spouse because - he has become our every day meal- if so - please try some ingredients which make your every day meal more delicious. Don't find restaurant for that.
5. Is he really loves you or he also looking for some restaurant ?
Evaluate your answer and still you feel that you should change your husband CHANGE HIM.
ALL THE BEST
2007-01-16 13:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by kaushik b 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Until your marriage is over, divorce papers signed, ink is dry... don't proceed with someone else. Here's what happens... your husband will get hurt if he finds out, and you will inevitably feel guilty... those feelings of guilt may even exist if he doesn't find out. That guilt and dishonesty creeps into the new relationship, tainting it. No matter how strongly you feel for the other person, it does taint it... makes it feel wrong. It's best to keep that higher ground and do things the appropriate way. You owe the truth to your husband, that your feelings have changed. Your feelings will hurt him, but if you go about things straight forward and honestly, it will turn out better, "untainted."
2007-01-18 00:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are on the outs with your husband and do not love him, call it off with both people. Clear your head. If you still want to be with this other person then go for him. It seems like you may be just running into the other guys arms to escape your problems. To call it off with your husband now, would not do you or him justice.
2007-01-16 13:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by DAD_to_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a little pay back for your hubby? Tell Him the truth if you are really in love with this other person its time not to be married anymore. have a little respect for your husband and leave him its not fair to be treated that way. Wouldn't you want the same respect from him.
2007-01-16 12:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by diana b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce your husband. If there's nothing there, why stay? It sounds like you are about to embark on an affair. It's time to see a divorce lawyer and get out of the marriage.
2007-01-16 15:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut. True happiness only comes around once and you should grab it while you can. I was in a similar situation and found the love of my life. We are both divorcing and will be spending the rest of our lives together. We are IN love and know that we need each other as much as breathing. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-16 13:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tom L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this with hubby see why he has placed his friends over you! If you truly dont love your hubby and he doesnt love you divorice! But be ware the new man may only want you as you are married and hence he is free from commitment. Be wise but be careful!
2007-01-16 13:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by John H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit talking and making out with this guy. Cut off all contact with him! It is so dishonest. Your poor hubby! =( Try working things out with your husband. Maybe you could tell him you feel like you are drifting apart and try to work on it! Poor guy..... =(
And please dont justify what you are doing by saying he would blow you off for his friends, at least he wasnt the one out fooling around.
2007-01-16 12:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kari R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you really falling in love or are you enjoying the attention from this other person. you really need to talk to your husband about what you feel about him .. what is missing or is gone . you should try to remember the time when you were dating and why did you married this person .
2007-01-16 12:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by cttoughguy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you have 2 options. One: Get a divorce. Two: break it off with your new flame and put that same energy into your marriage and husband.
Make your choice, and make it quick.
2007-01-16 13:00:37 · answer #11 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋