My husband was unemployed for 6 months and just recently started a new job in sales. I am 5 months pregnant and paying ALL the bills. Now that he is working (will be one month now) isn't it only right for him to start paying at least half the bills? He has yet to contribute because he is not meeting quotas YET and his pay checks are pretty small. He has used his checks to pay some traffic tickets that had 2 warrants out for his arrest and trying to take care of other legal issues. I say he needs to start paying the rent and let me spend my money on me and baby for a change. He says I am being selfish, I disagree.
2007-01-16 04:40:15 · 20 answers · asked by Lucci 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Eventually he will contribute. The legal issues need to be a priority.
2007-01-16 04:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sales jobs suck, at first. Give him some time. You have 4 more months before the baby actually needs you to spend money on it.
He needs to pay off the tickets and the other legal issues. That should be a priority for you too.
2007-01-16 12:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Dreaux~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, your not being selfish. YES, you are being irrational. Any money belongs to the family. Taking care of traffic tickets and taking care of warrants is taking care of his family. Would you rather he get arrested and make NO money. Think about that! When legal things are taken care of then both of your $ can be used for bills and baby.
2007-01-16 13:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You call this a marriage? Sounds more like a really poor business relationship. How sad for that child that it's parents have to act like children. Humm, let's see, unemployed for 6 months, yet still racks up traffic tickets and warrents, what a winner.
In a normal unselfish loving marriage, all income goes into a common account where bills are paid in the order of importance. None of this his money, my money crap. Time to grow up and be adults.
2007-01-16 12:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by javelin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he needs to pay warrants and traffic tickets it sounds like he has something else on his mind rather than you and your unborn child... himself. He is the one being selfish!! I wouldnt give him anymore money to spend... next time he needs gas money tell his *** to go to work!! I would also put his *** out on the street until he pays for his half of the rent... he doesnt deserve to live in a place he doesnt work for.
2007-01-16 16:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by GIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like he cares too much about his family. If you are a team then you should be together on paying the bills. If he has warrants that is a bit scary or would be to me given the fact that you're preggo w/his child. What's it going to be like once the baby is here?
2007-01-16 12:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say you'd better think about this. Is he without a job alot? You have to support a baby. If his pay checks are smaller use your money for rent and his money for baby until he starts making more. If he has a hard time with jobs loose the loser.
2007-01-16 12:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by diana b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are being spolied selfish and UNREASONABLE. If he gets locked up then what are you going to do. GROW UP. Also you say he's been unemployed for 6 months and your 5 months pregnant WHAT WERE YOU THINKING.
2007-01-16 12:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So your married but your finances are totally seperate? Wouldnt it be right for the at least the bill money to be combined?
2007-01-16 12:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
let him pay off his legal stuff first so he doesnt lose his job and go to jail. Then let him know he has to pitch in.
Sometimes I just don't understand the male species.
2007-01-16 12:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by jessi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋