How can I be closer friends with her?
2007-01-16 04:37:28 · 11 answers · asked by Rachel T. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-01-16 04:48:28 · update #1
Does it have anything to do with the fact that she is a surgeon?
2007-01-16 04:51:45 · update #2
Does it have anything to do with the fact that she is a surgeon?
2007-01-16 04:51:46 · update #3
No...you are NOT a psychologist Slim, you can't even spell it and your answer makes no sense!
2007-01-16 05:12:03 · update #4
Well, she doesn't just want the gifts especially when she can afford to buy them all on her own.
2007-01-16 05:21:23 · update #5
Um, it takes two.
If you're friends, ask her why she passes on your invites.
2007-01-16 04:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is a surgeon, you probably need to think and be honest about the timing of your invites.
Do you invite her when she really cannot be there?
Have you tried consulting her for a lunch date etc at a time convenient to her? I have a friend who is a doctor and maybe she's on call etc.
Do you feel inferior to her in anyway because she's a surgeon?
If she's a friend in every other sense of the word maybe you need to just talk to her about it.
2007-01-16 05:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends use to do the same thing to me. I would come to all of her parties that she invited me and she wouldn't come to mine. The best thing you can do is talk to her and if she's your true friend, she'll listen. You never know, she might have a reason why. Then decide what to do from there. If she doesn't have a good reason why, give her one chance and invite her to an event in the near future. If she doesn't show up than she's not worthy to be your friend.
2007-01-16 04:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by 509 Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's all one-sided - she expects you to show up to her functions, but doesn't want give a little and go to yours - doesn't sound like a friend to me. A friendship is a two-way street - not one. The best thing I can suggest to you is to talk to her. Confront her as to why she never comes to any of your socials or get-togethers. It's the best way to get things out in the open. I had a friend like that who always invited me to dinner with her and her husband all the time, but every time I asked her to go come over or go somewhere, she always made excuses. Well, I gave up on the friendship and didn't bother calling her anymore. She and her husband are nice people, but not nice enough to be true friends.
2007-01-16 04:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but she's not a real friend, she's shown you that several times. I was in a similar situation, I always invited three ladies that I work with for several years, and felt we were friends, since we worked for over 15 years together, well only one of them would always show up, the same one would only show up. The one would show up came to my wedding,children's birthday parties, barbecues,you name it she was there. The other ladies would invite me to functions and I went at first but I stopped.Two of the ladies I work with are co-workers to me (only), my friend and I go to lunch together, out to dinner together, she's a real friend, we talk a lot, she came to my mothers funeral, I love her my family loves her, she's a real friend. I agree , she only wants gifts, real friends are always there.We've been friends for 22 years now.
2007-01-16 05:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by LucyBoop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but if she turns down ur invitations, she probably doesn't like your parties...
So try to throw great parties, then talk about them CASUALLY. After a while she might try to see for herself, and if she likes it, she'll come again.
Just don't kiss her ***, and don't act like u really want her to come. U just present the invitation; if she comes, it's great; if she doesn't, just respect her decision and try again next time.
2007-01-16 04:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by andrei . c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to check with her and see how her schedule is before planning a outing with her. It maybe she just dosen't have the time. But don't cut off the invites, she may surprise you one day.
2007-01-16 05:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry i really have no great advice for you.. This happened to me for about 7 years before i gave up on the whole friendship... Being the only one sucks.. They are only using you to make themselves look and feel better...
That sucks but it was true in my case...
GL
2007-01-16 04:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by broekgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, all she is wanting is the gifts!!!!! She does not care about being your friend...Sorry!
2007-01-16 04:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by brandi from texas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You throw sshitty parties and you are a terrible Hostess.
2007-01-16 04:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by Submit to her Feet 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋