2007-01-16 04:30:03 · 9 answers · asked by lovecats 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i guess i should mention that im a lesbian so that i don't get a bunch of people automatically thinking im homophobic
2007-01-16 04:32:14 · update #1
First, let me thank you for asking a GREAT question! Havent seen this 1 one posted so its quite refreshing:-) Anyway, i've often wondered this. I tend to only make friends with people who are out lesbians therefore it wont be a difficult or awkward task of announcing my gayness. But for the few straight friends that I have made from work or elsewhere, I do let them know that i'm a lesbian. But it doesn't happen until it's apparent that a "real" friendship is possible. I dont see the point in just walking around telling everyone my personal business if they dont have a place in my life.
2007-01-16 05:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When hetros become friends with anyone, do they ever think that they 'owe' the new found friend, the courtesy of letting them know that they're straight? And by the way, I think its still possible for people to be homophobic even if they're gay. Its like racism in a way. My black friends call they're black friends '*****' as a substitute word for 'mate' - i think. But its still racist isn't it? - Well i think so anyway.
2007-01-16 13:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Me Y 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a person is to know you and actually be more than a casual acquaintance Yes, you DO "owe" them that bit of information. Otherwise simply stick to discussing the weather or sports scores and call it a day.
2007-01-16 12:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whether I owe anyone anything or not. But, usually when I am getting to know someone the question comes up pretty quick about your relationship status. "Are you married, living with someone...etc?"
Also just in the course of normal conversation. It would be stupid to change pronouns all the time. It would be perfectly normal to say "I went to Wal Mart last night with my boyfriend".
So, to remain closeted to a friend would involve telling a million little lies a day...no thanks.
2007-01-16 13:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't really say that I know where you are coming from because I am straight... but I do know that if any one of my "straight" friends came and told me that they were gay then I would only love them more because it tells me that they can trust me enough to know. Getting back to your question though, no friends don't have the "right" to know unless you feel comfortable telling them.
2007-01-16 13:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon Leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "owe" it to anyone. It is only important if you have the kind of friendship where you talk about your private lives. Ie: Do you have a boyfriend? "No, I have a girlfriend?" Or "No, I only date women" etc. But don't feel that it is something they have a *right* to know. The only person who really has a right to know is someone you are sleeping with. :)
2007-01-16 12:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Beth B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. For what reason? That is not their business unless and until you want it to be. Last time I checked friendship had nothing to do with sexual orientation.
Of course, all of this assumes that you don't have a sexual crush on the friend in question.
2007-01-16 12:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by inaru816 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you should feel like you owe it to your friend to explain your sexuality. If they are truely your friend, it won't matter one way or another. Straight people don't ever think that they have an obligation to explain their sexual orientation. So why should you?
2007-01-16 12:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel T 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No one but your bf/gf and Dr need to know your gay. No one else NEEDS to know, although you can CHOOSE to tell them if you wish.
2007-01-16 12:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋