Been through a divorce. Not pretty. Even more scared when I haven't had a child in 10 years! I know my b-friend wants children when we get married.
2007-01-16 04:29:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in an abusive marriage. However, I saw the warning signs since we were dating. Had a daugther before we got married and I was young as hell. When I was married, he didn't want to have anymore children, when deep inside I wanted to. But because I knew he was a bad father, didn't really feel like giving him a child again. Divorced him 5 years ago, and now...
My current boyfriend however is totally different than him and can say it is a healthy relationship. There are so many positive things about this relationship and I notice that he really really enjoys our company (me and my daughter). I know he really wants to settle down and has mentioned that he wants to have a child or two down the road.
I really respect him and he respects me. I see myself with him in the long run and I would love to give him a child, but in the back of my mind, I am really scared of going through the drama I went through in my first marriage.
2007-01-16 04:56:31 · update #1
Statistically, the second marriage has less of a chance of surviving than a first marriage. That does'nt mean you will be the one who divorces.
2007-01-16 04:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by LoneStarLou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on whether the person or persons learned from theyre first marriage, it seems to me that when a marriage fails there is more than enough blame to go around. I know that my first one ended up with infidelity on her part, but at the same time I cant honestly say I was the worlds best husband. I learned, remarried, have a wonderful relationship
2007-01-16 12:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why the first marriage failed. It also depends on whether your bf is totally different from your ex husband. Sometimes we pick the same type of person that we failed with because we don't know any better.
2007-01-16 12:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want childern, then don't have any more. Don't we have enough kids in this world. However if he is worth going through all that again, then you'd think it would work out. I'd say the chances are equally as good as your first marriage.
2007-01-16 12:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋