harm than good (for both parties), you are sorry for it, prayed for that person,and have been living for Christ and doing his best to love and serve others, should that person still try and go back and try and locate this person ? After praying much about it and counsel from others my heart tells me to let it go, give it to God and keep moving on. Your thoughts?
2007-01-16 04:22:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Okay, let's review.
You can't undo something from 30 years ago. Meaningful amends are more than just saying "whoa, sorry about that...I cleaned up, though!"
What does this mean? If you contact the person you hurt just to say "sorry," it's about you...not them.
If you intend to make meaningful restitution for what you did (i.e., if you caused a financial loss), then you should do so. If you honestly believe that the apology would aid THAT PERSON, then you should do so.
If your amends are all about you, just let it lie.
2007-01-16 04:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, since you have prayed and feel that you are being led to move on..maybe god is telling you to move on. i can't give you the answer...i don't know the whole situation (and even if i did i still probably couldn't give you the answer!) i can tell you this though...i have been hurt by someone years ago...and an apology from that person would mean the world to me. Although I have moved on from the situation and do not hold a grudge or anything, I still would appreciate knowing that this person acknowledged their wrong doings and had the heart to say so and make ammends. But...you are accountable to God, and if he's telling you to let go of it and move on then maybe that's just what you need to do. You can't dwell in the past...you have to look forward. If the opportunity presents itself for some reason and you are face to face with that person then go with it. They would probably be greatful to hear it and it will put closure on the whole thing.
2007-01-16 12:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD will make a way. Try not to get out in front of HIM. Sounds like you may need to forgive yourself still. You are a new creature in CHRIST, old things have passed away, all things become new. Start living in the now, and for the future. We all have regrets. But dont be bound-up by the past. Let the old man die. GOD BLESS and keep you in all your ways.
2007-01-16 12:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly4mission 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the fact that you are still dwelling on it and that it nags at your subconscious after all these years is testament to the fact that you haven't been able to let it go on a conscious or sub-conscious level.
The thing is, you have to do what feels right to your self and not worry once what God would want you to do. You are the one that has to live with yourself every waking morning and if the guilt is still residing after 30 years, you would be amazed what a letter being sent could do to your conscious or subconscious.
I have had similar situations in my life where I have reached out to people after 15 years and surprisingly, they were very receptive.
Maybe your situation will be the same?
2007-01-16 12:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by degendave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you here. Making amends to people you have wronged is very important, but the other person has to be taken into account as well. You do not want to make things worse or more painful for someone else, in order to try and help yourself fell better, especially if this is someone who has been hurt by you in the past.
It is a tough decision, but if you reflect on it long enough, you will know what to do.
2007-01-16 12:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by answerman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like its eating you up, who knows if the other people even remember or were affected by whatever you did. Im sure that praying and christ and all may be helping you, although it doesnt sound like it, but to tell the truth im pretty sure it hasnt helped them at all. If it isnt worth it, does more harm, then you are gonna have to eat it, and move on leaving them in peace. You had better go out and rent that series "My Name is Earl" to learn about karma and stuff like that.
2007-01-16 12:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sense that this is painful for you...
But you know what? You can only do what you can...
If something is out of your hands, just put your faith in God.
I know that you aren't a Muslim, but in Islam there is something that we are taught to do in situations like this, and that is to pray for the people,
If you did any harm to someone and you can't find them to ask for their forgiveness, you can also give a little bit to charity and pray that they get the reward.
I hope that was helpful
God bless
2007-01-16 12:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Zhenren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do all of the following and then you can do no more.
A) Call and say this has been on your mind and ask for forgivess...it might do the world of good for them to know that you are sorry and Why.
B) Let it go and give it up to God.
Good luck and god bless.
2007-01-16 12:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have asked the Lord for forgiveness, then you have been forgiven and He does not even remember that you sinned (or wronged someone or whatever). Give yourself the same courtesy -- forgive yourself and forget.
And continue to pray for that person.
2007-01-16 12:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person does someone wrong they should apologize. It does not matter if that person rises up and strikes you down. It it remains on the offender's mind it is imperative that they do the right thing and come clean.
2007-01-16 12:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by Immortal Cordova 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋