my boyfriend of 4 years is watching porn on sundays when i leave the house for a while and leave him with our 11 month old son. We talked about this before when i caught him downloading porn when our baby was 2 months old and he said o.k. but he is back at it. it's very disrespectful to me and i dont know what to do? have you ever had to deal with this?
2007-01-16 04:20:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is also still married but seperated for 9 years to a woman in austraila...
2007-01-16 04:27:40 · update #1
Your son can't pick his father, but YOU can.
2007-01-16 04:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i have never had to deal with this before. I would think he could wait until you get home and you can deal with the baby while he plays with his porn. But i think he has a problem like addiction to it and that is not heathy. He might need some help with that.
2007-01-16 04:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by diana b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You picked a real winner there! Downloading/watching porn in front of a child is abuse. Did you know that? Yes, it is called aiding to the delinquency of a minor also could be thought of as mental or emotional abuse. (depending on the judge)
You need to get away from this man. Seriously.
2007-01-16 05:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but you picked a LOSER . Forget about you for one second and think about the baby. That is so wrong that I can't believe you leave the baby with him. i think I would turn him in to the authorities. That is sick to be watching porn with a child there and awake I assume? You need to do something fast. WRONG
2007-01-16 04:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, or never leave him home alone with the boy again. Kids learn so fast. He's probably underestimating how fast they learn and how young they begin to pick up on things like that. You don't want your son learning that that is what sex is supposed to be about and having these distorted conceptions about sex and relationships. Adults (at least some of them) understand the difference, but he won't.
2007-01-16 04:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the hell rid of the SOB.. there is NO valid excuse for anyone to be watching or downloading porn when there is a child around.. it does not matter if the child is to young to know what it is either. get your child out of his care and get yourself out of the relationship..
alot of people think watching porn is no big deal.. its just normal for men and some women to but watching it while there is a child around, don't matter if you think the child is sleeping either is just unacceptable in my book .. and yes i have and am having to deal with an issue similar to this in my life..
2007-01-16 04:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mouseling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that a picture of your son? what a beautiful baby!
As for you bf, tell him how you feel and that you don't like what he did. hopefully he could change. Talk to him about this seriously.
Edit: you said he was married? well, it sounds complicated. try to work out with him, else, call it quit.
2007-01-16 04:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with this guy??? He's been in jail & now he's watching porn when he is supposed to be watching your son. You could do better.
2007-01-16 06:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by eddysmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... you need to really sit down and have a GOOD talk with him cause that's so wrong ...........i have never had to deal with this before ...but i think it is very wrong you think as a dad he would like that time to do something one on one with his son ....
and it would be nice as a dad if he would show his son a little respect cause that's just wrong .. good luck girl
2007-01-16 04:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that he needs to watch it another time. Perhaps while your child is taking a nap? If he doesn't respect your request I think it's time for your to say goodbye to him.
2007-01-16 04:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is vert disrespectful , i had to deal with is before when my boyfriend was watching it behind my back , and i told him if he loved me he would stop so i think he stoped watching it, i hate the stuff i dont like to watch other people.tell him to stop watching it for your kid and u.
2007-01-16 04:27:47 · answer #11 · answered by pretty girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋