how can you avoid people who is backbiting you in the office?

Question

i am media related professional and always encounter voltures everywhere i get employed, the thing is how do i make this people mellow and avoid their boiling blood against me. everywhere i go there's always some people getting intimidated with me, i am who i am and i don't have any plans of changing the way i am. I don't talk nor smile if they didn't do the same thing with me at first and i won't be the one to break the ice these people want me to kiss their *** just because i am new. any advice?

Answer 1

not all people can like you in your first acquaintance, though just smile sheepishly or rather always greet them in the mornng just try to break the barrier and shove off the negative notion that you are proud a person.

even if you are, you are in the media as you said, so you should be more people oriented and sociable.

if someone dislikes you, just let them just think that you are not there to get a long with them but to work for your company and contribute your productivity, though on the second thought, attitude really counts. so just be more flexible, but don't try too hard just be yourself and think of how you get along with your friends.

just open up a little and be more open minded.

Answer 2

Yes. CHILL OUT. It sounds as though this has been happening a lot. If so the only common item is you. You call yourself "MEDIA RELATED PROFESSIONAL". If you put the same effort into work as you put in this posting I can see why you have this problem. You show strong signs fo arrogance. Your use of the English language is nothing to be proud of.
I would take a real long hard look in the mirror and see what could be done to change you into a caring person. You may not like the answer, but that is the way it is.

Answer 3

I respect your desire to maintain your personality and not change for everyone, but sometimes in an office culture we have to make some small modifications to our behavior in order to avoid the backbiting you are talking about. I understand that you are not the type of person who smiles a lot or talks much, and that is fine because everyone has their own personality, but it has been proven that forming good working relationships with your co-workers can be actually more instrumental in furthering your career than work ethic, attention to detail, or anything else of importance in the corporate world. I read this study done about a year ago where employers were surveyed about employee-related matters, and over half of them said that an employee's attitude means more to them in terms of promotions and raises than even their productivity level. That means that more employers would rather promote the employee who slacks off a little but gets along great with his/her co-workers than the one who works diligently and produces error-free work, yet is percieved as stand-offish. My point is, it might behoove you to let down your guard in the workplace just a little bit so you can reap the rewards of being a well-liked, hard worker.

Answer 4

Stick to your guns, do your job, don't step on anyones toes, keep you nose clean, and be professional. It sound like to me you are already doing that. Your bosses will notice that you are more of a game player than a clown. Clowns are funny for a laugh, but not a promotion. Go out there and do your thing. Remember it does not matter where you go to work or what career you are in, there are always people who will want to get you down. Don't stoop to there level, you sound like a well rounded driven person that wants to go far in her career. The only way to do that is to steer away from the crowed and do your own thing. Become a leader in your workplace and do what you want to do to get ahead as long as it is with in your career boundries. Good Luck, maybe one day I will employ you. Or read about you in Time Magazine.

George.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have personality problems. I would not want to have anything to do with someone like you.

Answer 6

you said it...you don't plan to change...

many don't like you..
perhaps they have a point--maybe not...

keep it business like and professional.....


and be human--they deserve it--and you..
no reason to hate..

you'll be the loser--work wise--and personal wise.