How do I tell him or Do I tell him?

Question

I like his sex but every time we do I have to help myself get the job done and I have been with him for 22years and I love him so much,he does all he can do But like I said I have to do the job,and he thinks he is.

Answer 1

Try something new, take control. I think you should tie him to the bed, tie a bathrobe sash or scarf around his equipment and ride him hard till you come, then let him do so.

Answer 2

22 years? And he has no idea you're helping to get the job done? Wow! That's just wrong on so many levels. How could you go for 22 years without open honest communication regarding your sex life? You need to have a non-critical talk with your spouse about this and work together to make it right for both of you.

Answer 3

why not just suggest to try other ways, ways that you know will get the job done. Or suggest he do this and that to you. He will appreciate you telling him. Men love to know what gets a woman off. Just suggest things to him, or try role playing and be dominant and tell him what to do with you :)
Good Luck and Have fun experimenting!

Answer 4

After 22 years together you should be at least be able to lead his fingers to the "promised land" and it he is any type of real man at all, he will get turned on even more if you are excited by the encounter; if not is could me he is just a selfish pig and just got used to getting his rocks off and not caring. The only solution then is to withhold him getting his rocks off until you get yours.

Answer 5

During sex, you have to just be assertive and tell him what you want. Most woman have problems climaxing because they don't tell their partners what they want.

Assuming you don't have any emotional disorders that prevent you from sharing an orgasm with your partner, just tell him. Make a game out of it.

Maybe you want to consider couple's counseling or seeing a sex therapist. Don't worry, it's not as gross as you think. It's mostly talk therapy.

Answer 6

Ok this is what you do.

Say you want to get off twice in one day, and youve never done that, so its going to take a lot of work, and it will be lots of fun! And it will require him to do X Y and Z.

Answer 7

TELL him! You never should have let him think he was getting the job done. Talk, use toys..do what you have to but do it together.

Answer 8

You could try and give him some pointers on what pleases you. But, after 22 years, I wouldn't just out right tell him "you aren't satisfying me" I think that would upset him......

Answer 9

Work with him... WITH him. He must know you are helping get the job done... unless I'm not undestanding the specifics.

Answer 10

If he thinks he is... Then you havent told him he isnt. You need to be more communicative with him to get what you want. Tell him not to *** till you do.