We are in 7th grade and when we do talk we exchange a paragraph or two, kinda! But we run out of things to say to each other. He has my number, I gave it to him today and I'm still waitin' for a call! But that's not really important right now! I just want things to talk to him about, but not anything like "deep" if you know what I mean. I just want a conversation you know that will let us get to know each other better and stop all the silence! But the silence that we have togethor isn't awkward, it feels kinda right. And I like just knowing that he's there beside me and stuff! So I guess my question truly is, what are some things we can talk about!?
And PLEASE no comments about I don't need to be thinking about boys and stuff because my whole life has been really devoted to school I'm an A student w/ a 1 or 2 Bs! My schoolwork is under control and I understand the concept of if my grades begin to go down then I have to put my social life or w/e on hold so please just help!
2007-01-16 03:28:45 · 17 answers · asked by littleyoungsupernova 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Also we have a "movie date" around Valentine's Day getting setup, so you know I'm very serious about this relationship, but not TOO serious, just so you know!
2007-01-16 03:29:46 · update #1
And we are both in the 7th grade. I'm 12, but i'm not sure how old he is. I'll have to ask him tomorrow @ school!
2007-01-16 05:14:51 · update #2
And we are both in the 7th grade. I'm 12, but i'm not sure how old he is. I'll have to ask him tomorrow @ school!
2007-01-16 05:15:12 · update #3
OMG
i'm in 7th grade too and i HAD the same problem.
like we would talk on the phone then we would just get those awkward silences.
sometimes we watch tv over the phone =]
as in watching the same station and yah..
that really passes time.
we actually talk about teachers that we hate sometimes or kids at school like if we like them or not.
once you get a good stable converstaion going, you can pick off other topics from that one.
♥♥GOOD LUCK♥♥
2007-01-16 03:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be very very serious about your relationship. That's good and I must commend you for such dedication. I will not condemn you at all, so don't worry.
You are now in 7th grade, so the real issues of life may not be on the forefront of your mind right now. You are planning to go to the movies which is kinda tricky being that the age of your boyfriend was not revealed. What is his age?
You can try taking a walk in the park with him. Do you attend church together? If no, then seriously consider getting closer to this guy. If you go to the same church, you both can take part in church activities and volunteer in church programs. By doing this, you will have something to talk about. You can talk about new inventions and activities. Meet at the library and talk face to face. This will help you both to practice communication with another person which will help you both in the future. Give each other assignments such as a research on government law or something of interest to you both. You both can read a book you both like and discuss the events within. Whatever you do together, don't try sex. Have fun and be good to each other.
2007-01-16 03:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by cardo11 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok well the silence that is comfortable for you might be uncomfortable for him. Boys this age usually have no idea what to talk about. Even with other guys sometimes. So, what is he interested in? Learn a little about it and start there. Talk to him about school and your common friends. Ask questions that need more of an answer than yes or no. And keep the talks short and not every few minutes. My brother broke up with girls at this age because they kept calling him wanting to talk and then had nothing to say. So have a reason to talk and see where is goes.
Have fun,
2007-01-16 03:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, I don't have any ideas because then you might use them and he would realize they're not your own probably and that is just as bad.
But at your age it's NORMAL to be talking to boys and thinking of them. And hey, I'm 32 years old and can still remember it all vividly. But let me say that at this point, keeping your conversations as they are is only a good thing. I know you want more but so should he. If you hang on too long he will get scared and go away.
Have fun on your movie date and just be yourself. As time progresses you'll talk more and more without realizing it and it will feel natural for both of you. Have fun! This is one of the best parts of growing up!!!
2007-01-16 03:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by Valrosa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People usually love to talk about themselves so if you can think of things he's interested in to ask him about, ei sport, cars, whatever it is boys like that will be a good start. If he's into sport ask him about the rules of the game, but make sure you listen because you don't want to seem stupid when you can't remember at least some of them.
Talk about books you've read or films you've seen, holidays, pets you've had in the past. If you get him talking you will probably think of questions as you go along. Chatting takes practice so practice whenever you can, not just with your boyfriend. Luckily girls have a natural gift for it.
2007-01-16 03:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well perhaps you have already been informed about thoughts and where your priorities should be.
As you are only 12yrs old, at this age, boys are silly and goofy. Im sure that the conversation is great and will continue to be good. Simply allow conversation to happen on its own, its not something that can be forced.
Keep focused on school and enjoy being a youth ~ aspire for great things in life.
Dating & relationships will always be a part of your grown up life~
2007-01-16 03:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by stylegem 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should do more things like: sports, or clubs...You will have a lot to talk about when you start talking about things your into. Then you will also know how much you have in common. Keep up your grades, & finish school. You sound smart, but you need to BE smart! Good luck & have fun at the movies...at least there you don't have to talk!!!
2007-01-16 06:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. What you're going through right now is kind of like training for adult relationships. And don't worry about not having anything to say every time. Sometimes my husband calls from work and I don't know what to say because we talk so much when he's home! It's ok, your just still young.
2007-01-16 04:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, instead of just talking about movies, music, and family issues, talk about something else. Religion, the war in Iraq. I know these issues may not be of interest to you guys at such a young age, but it gets something going. How is he your boyfriend if you don't know him that well??? I'm glad that you are devoted to school, but how do you go out with someone if you don't know them?
2007-01-16 06:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two could kind of play a game where you work together to make a list of your favorite things.
Color
Singer or group
Clothes
Ice cream flavor
Relative
Best friend
Sports team
TV show
Video
Movie
Fave. thing to do on a Sunday afternoon
Fave thing to eat when you are sick
Fave thing to do alone
Fave pie
Fave dessert
Fave fast food
Fave pet
Talk about hopes you have for your life and places you want to go. Talk about school and teachers and friends.
2007-01-16 03:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by ssssss 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋