Heres the dilema. A friend gave me a cell-phone to use when mine got turned off. I asked her how much I owe her monthly, and she said don't worry about it, just pay your own outstanding phone bill. Everytime I asked her how much the bill was she would always say she didn't know or some other crap. Well I started giving her money only once a month without seeing any bills because she said she could no longer pay for it by her self. This phone I have was an extra line she was paying for when she got it for her now ex-boyfriend. Well she had the phone cut off. I'm not sure if it was just my line or what? I think she also has an attitude with me as well. I wasn't trying to beat her out of anything, I just wanted her to talk straight to me and not try to hussle me. How should I handle this?
2007-01-16 03:26:05 · 16 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's time to get your own phone line. It was nice to share a line with a willing party, but that ship has sailed. I would return the phone and thank her. Let her know if she provides the bill for the number you were using you'll have no problem paying for it. Say you'll pay, but set the terms. If you leave an open door, you may get trampled.
2007-01-16 03:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its funny friends always seem to have a hard time talking to each other when things happen until after the fact when someone is hurt, or mad.
Considering your phone was shut off she was doing you a favor, at the same time she should have communicated with you as to how many minutes you can use or after the first month or so tell you how much extra it was costing her. Being that she isn’t talking to you and being distant she is probably upset, and maybe she doesn’t know how to express thought to you just yet.
You though should have taken into consideration the favor she did for you and monitored your usage, and though you asked and she said don’t worry about it, you still have a responsibility to not take advantage for a free phone.
At this point all you can do is talk to her from your stand point explain to her your thoughts and apologize for taking for granted her kindness, but it wasn’t intentional, especially if she wasn’t communicating with you when you asked.
She will either respond or still be mad – if she is still mad – what is her friendship worth to you if you value it – then let her know that apologize and give her some space for her to heal – before trying again – no matter what the outcome you will have done your part in being a friend, and that will be her loss.
Good Luck
D
2007-01-16 03:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wanted you to get your own cell phone as soon as possible, regardless if she told you different. She was being very cool, however the fault lies with her not communicating from the very beginning what she would like to have happen, and you for not anticipating maybe? No it is not worth losing a friend over. Pay any outstanding money that you think you might owe. If you are having trouble figuring out how much, look at what people are paying for how many minutes you have been using. Get your own phone and do something really nice for her. bye 4 now
2007-01-16 03:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by perrin501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her!!! Ask her if you owe her any more money for the use of the phone, then get your own phone. That way there shouldn't be any bad feelings on this subject. If you can't afford a monthly plan, get a pre-paid phone that you only use what you have already paid for.
2007-01-16 03:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your "friend" did not want money for the phone maybe she expected something else. Perhaps a new boyfriend on a rebound? And when it did not happend - BAM the phone was cut off. Sorry to make such suggestion but you never know.
2007-01-16 03:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to see the bills so you two can sort this mess out. She might not have been paying for her part either, and you need to see that. She shouldnt give you attitude unless she asked for a specific ammt of money and you didnt give it to her.
2007-01-16 03:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your not going to get any honest answers from her. if she said you owe her diddly, then you were nice to give her something anyway, but she shouldn't be mad at you if she is and if she is mad at you, what for? anyways, no, no need to lose friendship. sounds like she's bitter about the boyfriend break-up stuff, you were just someone she wanted to either help out... or... the phones were really in his name! Did you call your pals in Italy?
2007-01-16 03:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends and money just don't mix. I would just tell it to her straight, be honest with her and tell her you don't want to lose her friendship over this. Ask her what you could do to make it even. And don't go getting into any money messes with any more friends!
2007-01-16 03:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Meghan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows the amount of the bill. Ask her again to show you or tell the phone co. your problem.
2007-01-16 03:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
demand her to tell her how much the bill is and you what to see it, then cheak the numbers to see what is your nombers and give her the money, if you do and give her the money you would be off the hook. because she can,t blame you when you give her the money,or go to your bank with her and pay the bill so she can,t spend it,
2007-01-16 03:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋