My brother n law named all his children. Well, when they got to the last one it was down between 2 names. They decided against the one I really liked. Well, I said I would just name my daughter that. This was well before my boyfriend and I were together. Now, I am pregnant I told him the name. He hates it!! He threatens to call her by her middle name. Well, I told him he will confuse our baby. Please HELP!!! I don't know what to do. Every name he selects is awful!!!!
2007-01-16 03:23:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
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2007-01-18 06:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course this is "my" opinion, but you asked. If you and your boyfriend made this baby together, then you should try to come to a common ground and name this baby together. Forget what your brother-in-law did, that is with their children. I understand you like certain names, but now you are about to become a parent yourself. Please don't start out being self-centered and saying well your Daddy may have named you, but I am going to call you >>>>>. Children have a hard enough time in our world today as it is. Give them all the love and support you can and don't fuss and fight over something that could have been settled before the baby was born. Goodness, go to a bookstore and set down with the boyfriend and the two of you make a grown-up decision about your baby's name and be done with it.
2007-01-16 17:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you, I had a name all picked out years before I met my partner. When I got pregnant he was happy with the name - Jessica - but I wasn't happy with his idea of a nickname - Jessie - and in the end I realised that my 'Jessica' was a sort of 'dream baby' and the real baby I was actually having deserved a name that just belonged to her.
Get some baby naming books or look for sites and think about the names in both of your families. We decided on our daughter's middle name first as it was my grandmother's name, but a little old fashioned for a first name, and then the first name came kind of naturally...
Good luck!
2007-01-16 12:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is why you make sure you agree on things BEFORE having a child together.
Obviously, you two need to sit down and have a serious talk. If you can't agree on a name, how are you going to agree on discipline, education, moral guidance, etc?
You need to realize that you aren't the only person involved in naming the child. You two should both write down a list of ten names you like. Then compare lists and COMPROMISE so that you are both involved and happy.
2007-01-16 12:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What me and my hubby did was if it was a girl I picked the name if it was a boy he picked. My first was a girl I named her Anisha he never disagreed with it. My second was also a girl, but I wanted him to help pick the name I made a list of about 20 names that was ok with me and he picked the name we named her Vannessa. Now with our last baby we decided he would pick the name all on his own since I got to on the first one. He picked Hayley Nichole for a girl and Dalton James for a boy but than my sister in law had a boy 3mths before my son was born and stole the name Dalton so my hubby named our son Dakota. I would suggest both of you make a list of names you like and see if any of the names are the same Good Luck
2007-01-16 13:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by little lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steps to the solution:
1. Get Married First
2. Both make a list of 50 (yes, 50) names you would like at least a little
3. Go through the lists together
4.) YOU WILL agree on something if you've got like 100 names to choose from.
2007-01-16 19:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by lysette.oxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know the name you picked. And the names he is suggesting instead.
The only thing you could do is not give the baby a middle name at all.
2007-01-16 19:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree on a totally different name and compromise. go onto a baby name site and pick something out together and if that doesnt work tell him that the babys not gonna have a name unless the two of you can decide on something.
my sister and her husband argued about a name forever and they finally picked oren which was his choice. then he changed his mind and now they have a beautiful little boy named Dylan.
guys change their minds freqently so maybe he'll decide on something nice eventually
also be open minded
good luck
2007-01-16 12:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by betsy032187 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all whats the name he disagreed on? and sec if u are fighting over ur childs name lord help u when u get settled in and he starts to tell u how to dress the child or what u or it can say sounds too me hes being a lil impossible...good luck..search ur heart and pray on it and it will come too u what to name the child..god bless u
2007-01-20 10:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Constance♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have each of you write down a list of 15 names that you like. Then compare and see if there are any matches or any from each others list that you do agree with.
2007-01-16 11:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normally my stance is this: you're the one that's pregnant, you're the one going to give birth, you choose!
However, if he really hates it that much, you need to compromise.
My family and I went through the book and we named our daughter the only name in the book we all didn't dislike - Georgina. I'm still sorry I didn't insist on Molly.
2007-01-16 12:57:12 · answer #11 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋