Why divorce rate in church marraiges is increasing today?

Answer 1

Getting married in church doesn't make it any easier to live together and avoid life's problems.

Answer 2

Many thing influence people and the church can be one. However, people are also constantly bombarded with advertisements. You may be wondering how advertisements for gum or shoes or whatever hurt a marriage. The main message in all advertisements is "GET THIS NOW AND YOU WILL BE HAPPY". Our economy is based on getting things NOW. Credit Cards are aimed at people who don't want to save their money to buy something.

With these same people getting married they also expect happiness to happen RIGHT NOW and if that doesn't happen they dispose of it like all that other stuff they didn't earn. Marriage itself has turned into another thing to be acquired and returned if you don't like it. We have spoiled ourselves by getting everything now and poisened marriage in the process.

Happiness takes work and is not easy, but every where we read that happiness is a swipe of a credit card away.

People are confusing their wants and needs. Everyone seems to think if they call a want a need they then deserve it.

True needs are simple and basic: food & shelter. Food is Beans and Rice is food not steak or burgers or candle lite dinner. A tent is shelter not a house or apartment or mansion.

Love itself is not a need, but a deep wanting in ourselves.

No person or thing can MAKE anyone happy.
Happiness is a feeling and comes from within.
We choose to be happy by looking on the bright side and NOT looking for angle or darkerside of human nature.

So why has the divorce rate increased? Because people have either forgotten or where never taught where happiness comes from.

Answer 3

You can find out quite a bit of this info on BarnaGroup.org - a christian polling study group. There are several reasons: 1) Religion pushes marriage over fornication so a lot of young people marry to legitimize sex. It is a known fact that the younger you marry, the greater the chance of divorce. 2) Religion gives a false sense of marital security. Meaning that if you believe in God, your marriage is protected from strife, infidelity and other problems. In no way does going to church / believing in god grant you a happy marriage. Being a godly person doesn't even give you an edge over atheists - whose divorce rate is LOWER than that of born again & protestant christians. Don't take my word for it, see it for yourself on barnagroup.org. Contrary to what everyone says, Divorce is not increasing. Divorce has steadily decreased since the 70's and 80's when it was at it's peak of 40% of all new marriages. There's a big difference between 40% of all marriage and 40% of new marriages. In reality, divorce in america is 4.75 per 1000. Roughly translating to about 1 in 4 marriages. Marriage is actually pretty stable. Check out snopes.com and divorcereform.com for these FACTS.

Answer 4

Getting married in the church doesn't exempt you from any of the problems married couples are going to have. The divorce rate is increasing because in this dysfunctional world it's hard for people to focus on what really matters. Consequently most people marry the wrong person for the wrong reasons and unlike our parents or the generation before them, this generation of people feel less obligated to stay in a situation that makes them unhappy.

Answer 5

Lots of people who get church marriages do so because of tradition or pressure from family. A courthouse wedding may have been simpler, and less stressful. So the stress starts at the beginning. Religion also plays a smaller part in people today, so the stigma of divorce isn't as bad as it was 20-30 years ago. Less people believe in death til you part now, so that more people get divorced over less stress than years ago. More divorces mean more of all divorces including church marriages.

Answer 6

People who go to church are no different from people who don't. The divorce rate is increasing all over the country.

Answer 7

Tammylynn is right. I have problems now in my "church marriage" that I couldn't have seen coming in a million years. I think maybe the tendency is to be mad at your mate AND GOD for becoming unhappy and suffering differences. So you're going to "show them." The answer is the opposite: you should show "them" that you meant your vows and now that you're livng out the "worst" of the better or for worse, you will remain where you are. Counselling, prayer, removing the option of divorce, people are too impatient to try these things. They are what will keep me married. That and the thought of not seeing my daughter(s) everyday. Plus I married a good man. I try to remember that when he makes my skin crawl.

Answer 8

Majority of church marriages are just for show. the couple grew up in the church and it's just expected of them to be together. I think they just feel to much pressure. Especially if they are young. They never really show themselves to each other they are always putting on their church face to each other. Then when they get married there is no hiding.They don't know how to be together outside the church.

Answer 9

Because kids are getting married more often. 85% of marriages fail between the ages of 18-25. People arent waiting long enough and its increasing the all over divorce rate. Its ridiculous that 18 yr old people get married....NOONE KNOWS WHO THEY ARE< OR WHO THEY WILL BECOME at the age of 18. Its people being ridiculous.

Answer 10

Same reason the divorce rate is higher in the Bible-belt than in liberal strongholds like Boston: people marry the wrong people for the wrong reasons and don't have realistic expectations for their marriages.

Answer 11

Thats because there is no proper marriage guidance from parents and by their respective priest,pastors,etc.Thats the reason that people don't know whats the meaning of marriage and as well their religious heads dont know what they are reading in their holy manuscripts.I know religion will help each individual to be in the right path if they are taught to have fear in GOD!