how to get past your wife cheating?

Question

how do you get past the image of your wife with another guy

Answer 1

My wife cheated and I can't get past it...the truth is that you'll need serious therapy. Even after that, you may never get over it, you'll just have to learn to do deal with it if you want your marriage to work.

I found emails, and still have the image of the text on the screen burned into my memory. When someone violates your trust, it is very hard to ever trust them again.

Answer 2

I don't know that you can, hon....Marriage is something really special --- at least it ought to be. It says to the world --- the legal one, as well as the social one --- that we are a team, this person is my lover, my wife/husband, and my very best friend. We share everything together. Marriage is respect, admiration passion and trust.--- four biggies, I think. And when the trust is gone, because she has shared her body, and her soul with another, there is about no way the other two survive -- the admiration is in the toilet along with the trust, as is the respect. My marriage counselor friend tells me that it is two years before trust is regained after betrayal, and that is with absolutely no guarantee, and with both wishing to save the marriage. Betrayal is the absolute deal-buster --- most everything else can be negotiated between most couples who are mature, and caring. Marriage involves kindnesses, lovies, solving differences without rage, being there for the other, agreements on how to spend extra time and money, and sometimes just "shutting the hell up". And it is as well time alone to develop.... and it is sexually exclusive as a given.

Your question is how do you get past this? I'd suggest some counseling if you and she wish to save it...You will never forget, that just ain't gonna happen, and maybe you will be able in time to forgive.... it is a big order, because for sure your relationship will never be what it was, no matter how hard the both of you try.

Answer 3

I'm going through the same thing right now. We started to see a counselor but I'm not sure if that's helping yet. I wonder if she is telling me the whole story. She said that it stopped just short of sex but it's hard for me to believe her. And, how can I prove otherwise? I'm starting to feel better just because time is healing. The forgiveness happens before you regain trust. I'm giving her a second chance which I think is the right thing to do. It take a really strong person to forgive and I'm trying to be strong. You should too.

Answer 4

After going through this myself, all I can say it takes a lot of time. My situation happen over 4 years now and it still bothers me to a certain extent. The worst thing you can do is hold it all in, so talk to a close family member or friend about what your going through and it will help you feel better. Also don't deny yourself from getting angry or crying about it because all that helps push those hurtful emoitions out. In time, things will get better for you and you'll start feeling better.

Answer 5

My wife cheated and I never got over it....But I do think its possible. I really that had my wife sat down with me, told me the truth about all there would have been a chance.....I think one of the problems with trying to mend things is that the cheaters tend to only admit to what you can absolutely prove, but will deny everything else......then when a previously denied thing is proven they'll admit to that but still deny all else

Answer 6

not easily, kinda makes one sick when they think about it. try counseling for a start. it has probably hurt your ego, and self worth, and it is never easy. that's why most marriages fail when betrayal is involved. just kind of takes all the romance and love out of it, as we will never quite feel the same about the person, not ever. but get some spiritual counseling, have to really want to get past it, have to really believe and have faith the person won't do the same to u again.

Answer 7

does she truly show remorse, and is she willing to change for you and your marriage, you need to ask yourself these questions,and has your wife cheated before? Good luck

Answer 8

Counseling!

Answer 9

If she cheated, I'd kick the ***** out. No questions asked.

Answer 10

She couldn't help it. Did you see the size of her lover's wanger? Good lord, it's HUGE.