Dear community of the world.. Guys I really need your views on this.?

Question

When I was 17, I had a fight with my younger brother. He ended up punched me on the left side of my face. It swells but I refused to go the clinic because of my stubbornness. I was so hurt inside rather than the outside. My face swells and I totally looked like a lion!
I thought it was just a swollen face. It did not. My bone structure slightly moved to the right. Therefore, my right cheekbone was slightly higher than the left. My nose bones also slightly moves to the right. Yet, my nose looks higher than before. People will be able to notice it if they take a careful and closer look. This has affected my self-esteem and confidence. I am a perfectionist; ever since the incident, I do not see a point of being one.

I am not going to say something that will look like I am a vain and shallow minded person, but I kept getting compliments about my looks before what had happened to me. I kept denying but they kept telling me. Nevertheless, I kept hearing the same thing up until now, after five years.
I hate wearing make up, but ever since that occurrence, I have to put on some highlights on my left cheekbone to give a balance effect whenever I go out.
In addition, shadings on my nose too..
It is not obvious, even my boyfriend said that. However, I am not over with what had happened and always wish that I could turn back time. I am not holding any retribution against my brother though.

My question is how can I get over this unbalanced features?
I know my problem is nothing compared to the world doldrums out there or someone who has lost one of his or her legs, arms, or even loved ones.
But my heart is crying for help, furthermore I am extremely soft at heart and the fact that I loss my face over some worthless fight with my brother kills me even more. Of course I do know beauty from the inside matters even more and it will radiates the external beauty. It is hard for me because I am about to be a flight attendants hence look is important.
I never cry over what had taken place, only that at times, I cannot sleep thinking about it..
Yes, perhaps looks are important to me.. However, I never judge the other individual just by looking at their face. Ever.

Is there anything I can do medically to correct my bone structure?
On the other hand, are the any possibilities that I could “weirdly” plant something on my left cheekbone so it will appear even? Thank you guys so much for reading.
Love you guys. And for those who are about to despise me, I do not have anything to say.

Answer 1

Everyone is two faced. That is to say the left and right side of every face is different. There is nothing you can have done to correct or change the bone structure that would be appropriate or reasonable. What you see in the mirror is a reverse image of your face. We learn with age that everyone has many physical and mental disabilities. The things you should look for in yourself and others is wisdom, health, and love. If you look at pictures of people when they are young and then pictures of the same people when they are old you will notice that age changes them. Hope you will be able to see your picture now and 60 years from now and be happy that you are still in good health and have a loving and caring family.

In fact, the two sides of your face, like the two sides of your body -- -the left and the right -- are usually asymmetrical and unequal in proportion. Look at yourself in the mirror -- full-face and full length -- to see the differences.

Answer 2

Hi there - it does seem that you have really suffered since that fight with your brother. After 5 years I can't think that you would be able to do much medically. But you strike me as a pretty balanced type of person.- if someone has to look closely to see any difference between the two sides of your face then I really feel that you shopuld take that as meaning that it is very hard to see at all. No ones face is exactly the same on both sides I'm told. You have a nice spirit - keep hold of that and you'll win through. Above all forgive and love your brother - good brothers are scarce.

Answer 3

When we have something which stands out to us, we often overlook our best features, for example, you may have a great bum, or a great tummy or set of legs, many more good features that outbalance the ones you see as bad. Because you pay so much attention to yourself in this way, it will appear obvious to you, but as you say, no one notices until they look closely or really hard, as you said, your boyfriend says it isn't noticeable :)
And yes, you are right, there are other people out there with severe disfigurements and yours isn't as severe as these, although it is unfair to compare people in this way yeah.
My advice, is take a look at yourself, you really are beautiful, and everyone face is uneven to an extent! There are options of surgery, but these would be intrusive as it is the bone structure which is in concern. There are products which are like a putty which you can apply to you face to "fill in" areas, I would advise you to see you GP, and he can point you in the direction of a place where you can go to get these, perhaps a dermatologist.
I can understand how you feel, but you have to appreciate everything you have, all the good things about yourself too. You seem to be a very understanding person, allow yourself to be understood by you too and you confidence will shine out your beauty :)
I hope this helps, i seem to have waffled a bit he he

Answer 4

It may be that it's the initial shock and hurt that you can't get over. If this is not visible then it is only visible to yourself but then again you do have the story behind it on your mind. It probably hurt you that your own flesh and blood could do it to you and that's the real disfigurement in your heart & soul rather than the actual physical one on your face. You could have got that by falling over and probably you wouldn't be so concerned abou it. If it really bugs you that much then perhaps you could see your GP and ask him what your options are. Be careful because your doctor may suggest that you report this incident as assault to the police. Would you want to do that to your brother? If you were to pay for some plastic surgery then you'd be well within your right to ask your brother to pay for it as he was the one who caused it. I really do hope that your brother has grown up since and learnt that hitting women is not a good thing. Good luck!

Answer 5

There are ways to correct this problem surgically but it may be costly. You can have reconstruction done by a plastic surgery who can realsign the facial bones. Alternatively and because of the time factor it may be cheaper and sensible to have the opposite side built up to even out the distortion. The latter may be the easiest approach. However without Xrays being presented to make an informed decision it is difficult to provide you with a satisfactory answer. That is why you need to consult with your physician and get a referrral to a plastic surgeon.

Answer 6

My brother and I are at it a lot...he did some damage (teeth) when I was eleven and I deserved it! Then my son was swinging a hammer and I got in the way...the teeth again. Went to wrong dentist who could of put it down as the accident it was and I would of got braces to straighten the bite..noo..he was neglent and greedy...Now I have a pointed front arch instead of rounded..
Your problem: maxillofacial deformity umm try dental school because they are usually funded for this...
I know a girl who had a shifted face and when her teen years came around (especially 16) her mother and father looked into her deformity...she had it for years and the result was a gift of confidence...it took about a year to get the results but worth it..Good luck

Answer 7

the damage is psychological i don't believe there is a flight attendant in the world that suffers anything that might be considered a deformity .

tell any girl that they have a moustache regardless of whether or not it's true and as time goes by they will convince themselves it's true and start shaving .

cosmetic surgery is insanity almost every single person who ever set upon that path especially involving the face would give anything to return to how nature intended them to look in the end .

Answer 8

I think this matters to you an awful lot.
Don't put yourself down for caring about you!
An honestly I don't think anyone else can tell.
We always judge ourselves more harshly.
I would go to a doctor and get an x-ray.
The doctor can tell if anything is out of line.
A lot of these things are easily fixed.
What seems like a big problem to you,
may only be a simple surgery. But keep in
mind it is surgery and it does cost plenty.
Don't beat yourself up about feeling like this.
You deserve to feel great about yourself,
Inside and out.................Good Luck

Answer 9

Scientists have proven that peoples perception of beauty is linked to symmetry. Put it another way if you map a face, those that are considered beautiful generally have symmetry between both side of the face, IE eyes cheeks etc.

Go see your doctor, if its affecting you so much they should be able to do something

Answer 10

People usually focus on their own flaws more than other people will notice. Nobody looks or is perfect and nobody's facial features are 100% completely balanced. Personally, I think you're dwelling on it too much.