If you were basically ignored,shouted at,bullied by your father as a child, what affect would this have on you in later years with him and with yourself in general?
2007-01-16 03:09:18 · 15 answers · asked by Girl 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This could make you insecure and constantly seeking acceptance from men in particular. You could possibly grow to be angry towards him and not have any respect for him. Make sure that you don't end up with a man like him - you may be drawn towards them because that is what you have been "used" to. Remember, nice, geniune people are not weak they are the strongest of them all - you will need to arm yourself with this information as when you do meet a nice guy who loves and respects you, it may feel alien. Don't let your past ruin your future.
2007-01-16 03:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bexs 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I can only answer this according to how it affected me. Basically I have no self confidence and low self esteem becuse if my own father didn't like me then why will anyone else like me. It has made me untrusting especially with men and it has made me expect the worse in all people and all situations. I feel very mixed up and sad virtually all of the time and my life is not how I want it to be. As for my relationship with him, I don't see him and he makes no contact with me either. I wish I had a different and 'better' dad.
2007-01-16 12:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by clairelou_lane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your father is not doing these things to you!Yes this will have a effect on you.Being that we reflect on what happens to us 79% of the time when we were a child.And if you have children that may cause a problem because it depends if you act like your father that means you dont have a lot of friends your mean and so on,but on the other hand you may feel to embrace life better so you won't turn into your father,in other words it may make you a better you.Also you may need to try therapy.
2007-01-16 11:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by AMBRASIA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not have a child adult father basis; you will have to put your mind to finding someone not like your father (the tendency is there for daughters to mate with someone w/tendencies of father; son w/tendencies like mother). This probably was abuse not guidance. You probably do not want to listen to him or about things he may propose because of the shouting match and again the abuse. You need someone positive who will be happy you can grow
2007-01-16 11:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone with thick skin, the only thing that I personally would want to do in any such situation where I am felt to feel inferior and uncomfortable, is ignore the it all, keep myself to myself, and concentrate on getting myself to a stage where I can leave it all behind and live a better life elsewhere...
2007-01-16 11:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd hate him, but would probably still crave his love and approval. You'd feel worthless & useless, probably sleep around to feel loved, might even end up a junkie from taking stuff to make yourself feel better, that would lead to crime....
You'd feel insecure, and need to be told all the time that you're doing well, looking for approval. You'd need to go on a confidence-building course. (Or buy Paul McKenna's book & CD - that man can work wonders with hypnosis.)
2007-01-16 11:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this would really affect your self esteem and confidence, especially with men.
I don't talk to my father, he was a bully and abusive to everyone.
I don't miss him or even care for him, better off without.
2007-01-16 11:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by flips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will either reach out for help - because you don't want that to continue in your life. You will choose to get help.
Or -
You will choose people who are just as abusive as him, and they will continue the pattern. Since this is all you know, the continued abuse will be comfortable to you.
Someday - you will say enough after all of those toxic people in your life! - and then you will reach out for help, and you will become healthy and real JOY will come back into your life.
GO for it!
GOD bless us one and all, always
CPA-retired
MBA-Boston Univ.
2007-01-16 11:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Disrespect.Hatred. Disappointment.
Critical spirit.Lack of confidence.
Bitterness,etc.But I hope you won't let it ruin your life.You can learn something from that experience and put them into good use.
Pls. read the bible.Check Joseph in Genesis(old testament).He was sold to slavery by his own brother,suffered many injustices and hardships,but he did not let them cause any bitterness in him.Instead he put them into good use!And his life got so blessed!
2007-01-16 11:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you will decide what effect you would want.
1. you could become the bully, ignorant, and loud..
2. you could become timid... sheltered... introvert.
3. out going..... extrovert and dont give a damn about the past but live for the present while planing for the future....
bottom line
your choice.
2007-01-16 11:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by STYLES M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋