If someone says they will kill themselves if you leave them is it just a threat?

Question

my feeling is it is just a threat but what if they actually did it, how would you deal with the guilt.

Answer 1

Well if they say it odiously it's a cry for help.Let a professional know so they can deal with the problem don't let them put it on you.You are a friend but friends don't put guilt trips on friends.

Answer 2

If you truly want to leave her, but don't want to risk her following through with the threat, make sure she has a good support system and make sure her friends and family will keep an eye on her. The guilt will definately be tremendous if you do leave and she does follow through, but you don't want to get stuck in a dead-end relationship just because you don't want to live with the guilt of 'being responsible' for someon'es life. And if she is threatening her life over a relationship, there's more to the story.

Answer 3

When I Was In This Public Restroom Once I Ran Into A Guy Who Said He Was Going To Kill Himself. And Told Me Not To Try And Stop Him . So I Left And 2 Min. Later He Came Out And Ask Me Why I Did'nt TryTo Stop Him. I Told Him If You Want To Cop Out On Life Your Noting But A Coward .He Forgot About Wanting To Kill Himself. We Talked About GOD That Day .And He Lost That Feeling Of Sucide

Answer 4

at the starting up, you shouldn't be guilted right into a relationship. you could be a chum, yet you're literally not in charge for the movements of yet another. look at me, i'm being guilted right into a relationship with a guy that just about grates on my very last nerve. i'm depressing. If this human being received't search for specialist help, that you've tried to cajole them to get, the count number number is somewhat out of your hands. you could be a chum on your words, however it may flow no further than what you've pronounced you want. or you'd be giving the problem an complete new spin and it is going to easily make concerns worse. Cheerio.

Answer 5

thi person is using emotional blackmail to put y major guilt trip they cannot accept the relationship is over so they really need help like counselling which you should suggest to them also make them see what this statement they have made is doing if you are still with them make sure they know thats the only reason you are and will only be there till they gwet help even arrange a visit to a counsiller for them then walk away you have no need to feel guilty if you have been honest enough to admit the relationship is over and tell them your reasons why its over .. its their problem not yours they need to accept that not you so if the make this threat again assure them it wont keep you there... Walk away...

Answer 6

What guilt. I'm suppose to live the rest of my life unhappy because some weak minded person might kill themselves if I leave them? I don't think so! The world is better off without people like that!

Tell them where you leave your vodka and sleeping pills and leave.

Answer 7

I deal with people threatening suicide on a regular basis...my experience has been that anyone that announces ahead of time that they are going to kill themselves isnt going to do it...whenever ive gone on actual suicide the person did it in private, no one knew till they were found. This just sounds like someone that is throwing a tantrum so they can get their way

Answer 8

one of my friends said that to his girl in high school, but she broke up w/ him anyway. he called her on the phone the day she broke up w/ him and shot him self while talking to her. So it is not always an empty threat. His girlfriend was really messed up for awhile, but is doing pretty good now(i'd say it took her a couple of years to really get over it).
That being said u still can't stay with someone b/c they threaten to hurt u or themselves. If he/she isn't handling it well maybe talk to their parents or family.

Answer 9

I don't know if there's any way to know for sure if you should take them seriously. My wife had a friend who divorced her husband and he said if she left him, he would kill himself. Well, she left because he was being abusive and sure enough he offed himself. It was very difficult for her to get over it. If you know any of his/ her friends or family, maybe you should make them aware of what he's saying. That way someone can keep an eye on him. Unfortunately, this can't be your responsibility. You can't stay with someone because they are threatening you with this. I think usually it is a way to try and keep you around. Listen to your gut instinct. You know him/her better than most anyone. Just remember that you are not responsible for another persons actions.

Answer 10

You need to tell someone in power or someone who can help, u know how in what emotional state they were in when they said it to you. if this person has been emotionally unstable, they could mean it. u don't say things like that, it's not healthy. you need to leave this person alone and let someone professional help them. report it it's the best u can do if anything. but you should think of yourself too and this relationship isn't healthy for you. get away form this person, get them out of your life and move on and next time pay attention to the warning signs.