I have been talking with my ex for about 3 months He has always loved me very much and has thought consistanly about me throughout the 13 years that we have been apart we has called me every three years since we split. Well i was a stubborn, self centered person before when we were together and he felt i didnt love him so he broke up with me. Well we both moved on he had three children and so did I well I just broke up 9 months ago with my husband of 8 years, and he has been with his girlfriend for 13 years they are still together and he says he is not happy. i think that he wants to be with me but he doesnt want to hurt his girl or his family. I want to be with him he told me that he loves me and that he wants to come home to me but in the same time he fells bad about what to do about her, What should i do back off or continue to see him. I dont want to be a friend with benefits i am looking for love. But I have had the time of my life with him and have enjoyed all the attention.
2007-01-16 02:26:05 · 9 answers · asked by littlereddragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sounds like he likes the attention too and I expect he will never leave his gf although he says he will. I think this relationship was based on mutual flirting and I think he would run a mile if you said you wanted something more than friendship. Are you willing to gamble your friendship on a relationship which might not work. He is your ex for a reason.
2007-01-16 02:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be the "other woman". Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if an old flame moved in on your man while you were still together? Regardless of whether he is happy or not, he has to take the steps on his own without your encouragement to end his marriage. Once the divorce is final, I recommend keeping your distance from each other for at least a year lest you fall prey to rebound status. Anything done in haste will come back to bite you in the behind. Trust you me. My cousin left his wife for an old flame, jumping from one bed & household to another without time to recover. When things weren't any greener on the other side of the fence, he blamed the new squeeze for "leading him astray". Then broke up with the old flame, tried to go back to his ex-wife who told him to stuff it. Happens all the time. Don't get involved.One way or another, you'll regret it.
2007-01-16 03:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD BACK OFF! Ur just feeling lonely right now,and going back to the exes is a terrible idea.does he want to be with u and leave his 13 yrs of relationship behind??i don't think so.I'm not saying that he doesn't have feelings for you cause i don't know that,but what I'm saying is that you should let go before more people end up hurt.You said he has children with this relationship right?well why mess with that.theres kids involved.just move on.
2007-01-16 02:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by ur nena linda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can kind of understand his situation, but how fare is it to her for him to be with her and telling you that he is in love with you? If I were her I wouldn't want someone like that and I'm sure she doesn't either. If he loves you and it is meant to be you guys will be together no matter what, in the game of love unfortunately somebody always has to get hurt and hopefully it is not you.
2007-01-16 02:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have wait for him to decide what he is going to do with his girlfriend. If he chooses to stay with her and the family then you have to back off so that you don't break up a great family, but I he chooses you then good luck and enjoy your time together.
2007-01-16 02:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and his family alone. You had your shot and its over. He needs to stop cheating on this person he is with. Yes, I said cheating. You think your the only girl he's talking to behind her back? If he didn't want to hurt her, he wouldn't be doing that.
2007-01-16 02:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought of diverting your focus to your child instead....you are making lives complicating and difficult...to another woman just because of your loneliness?
2007-01-16 02:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say he has a girlfriend-he needs to end the relationship with her before you get anything going.
2007-01-16 09:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone.
2007-01-16 02:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Nashparker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋