Ever have false allegations made against you as a parent?

Question

My husband had a very controlling ex wife and was married for 10 yrs.He was not allowed to have any friends and was kept away from his family for the duration of the marriage. Her friends and family were his friends and family no exceptions.After the divorce she then went to extremes to keep their 2 daughters from him. He could only have them under her conditions.Anyway,the oldest daughter was 15 when the mother had her make false allegations against my husband, that "he threatened to kill her".She said, this happened when she 8 yrs old.She tried to take his custody away.My husband had to go through 2 psychological evaluations and they both found that my husband is not capable of abusing a child.This women continues to brain wash the 2 girls, because she doesn't want them to have a relationship with my husband. She has them thinking that their step dad is their "Dad" I have done research on this and have found there are a lot of fathers going through this.My husband still has custody

Answer 1

No I can't say I have. I just wanted to comment that I think women like that are sick.. Children need their fathers just as much as their mothers.. She is teaching her girls to lie, be deceitful, and most importantly to view men in a negative way which will harm them when they become old enough to date and eventually marry. They will have NO respect for the men in their lives.. Sad :(
Tell your husband to hang in there, they will grow up soon and most likely along the way figure out on their own just what kind of mother they have.. You can be their rock when they become of age and show them that everything mom said was and is bull**** if they haven't figured it out on their own by then.. Tell him to not worry, the truth will come out sooner or later.. :)

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your situation but let me say one thing against it, my ex used to hit me, he was very abusive and often in front of the kids, I've been told that there is no point pressing charges because I have no solid proof and he would get away with it anyway and I'd have to go through court retelling my story over and over again to no avail, he sees the kids several times a week, I know many women in the same boat, so for you to say that the courts and police see the person as automatically guilty is not at all my experience, he has won in so many ways and I can't do anything about it, he breaks the intervention order almost daily and there is nothing I can do about it, for me domestic violence is not a joke, it is something I lived with for years and something I will never get justice for and it's incredibly rude of you to say that, now that being said I hate people like your ex, people who abuse the system because it it because of those people that I can't get justice, it is because of them that I still have contact with my ex, that I have to still fear for my safety and now my kids, you have had a bad experience but so have so many who have actually been abused because of a faulty system that does not prosecute those who are actually guilty and yes I did hide my bruises. ETA: I'll just add about your centrelink line that my ex does not have to pay child support because I have DVO against him, so he beat me up and now he sees the kids when he wants and doesn't have to even pay a cent for them.

Answer 3

Sounds like my ex. Mine had my daughter hateing me for years and any arguement my ex and I had after divorce she made it a point to involve my daughter. 7 years past before my daughter understood her mom is a nut. The new dad you refered to won't be around long because she'll do the same to him and when harrassing your husband wears out the she'll turn it stupidity towards the daughter. I hope you do better than what I went through, but the ex has alot of government backing her. There is alot of money to be made off phsyco's like her.

Answer 4

yes I have and it was by my kids step mom . She told cps that my kids were sleeping on the floor and that was so not true . the cps worker came out and was shocked at how clean my house truly was . She told me not to worry about it and she also let me know that she was going to put my ex's wifes name in the computer system as making false allegations and that if she did it again she would go to jail for harrassment and falsifying police reports . She told me not to worry things like this happen all the time . so I guess what I am saying to you is just let it pass.And eventually they will get what is coming to them .

Answer 5

It happens all the time, and so long as it is a woman doing it, the courts seem to overlook it every time. I have never found a way to beat it,,, so I suffered until my Children turned 18, and now I never have to deal with that loathsome, evil woman again.

Answer 6

Not for me personally but one of my best friends.. the same thing had happened and unfortunately, there are some crazy people out there trying to doing really bad things. I hope that the girls come out alright..take care...