2007-01-16 02:22:39 · 39 answers · asked by Patty T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes
but it's hard
2007-01-16 02:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by narco_polo47 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"LEARN"? Doesn't one need something to put into one's head when one learns? So, if the partner has experienced a BEHAVIORIAL CHANGE, and one sees this OVER TIME, one may thus learn the NEW WAYS of said offending partner, then yes.
But if you're referring to one responding to the pleading, promising, begging of the partner for a second chance - that's foolish. Lying, stealing, brutality, maliciousness - these things may be deeply ingrained, going a long way back in their history and deep into their character (if they've been at it for a while). People challenged with nasty qualities like this could use a little professional help.
What evidence of change is there (words are too cheap to matter, what action has taken place to demonstrate change)?
One needs to be careful of what one forgives; rather, one can forgive but not be expected to go through the same stuff yet again.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-01-16 02:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust takes a very long time to rebuild. It is not an overnite thing esp if they have continuously lied in the past. What is to say that they have changed? Their word? Some peeps dont know how to be honest and that is sad. They in the end will be the lonely ones as no one will trust them ever.
2007-01-16 02:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say no because from experience and I don't know if this is for everyone but I would always accuse him, questioned him, speculate where he was, check pockets for receipts and cell phone for unusual numbers. I became someone I did not want to be...A snoop! I became numb with my feelings and could not live with a stranger A.K.A someone I could not trust anymore. He had hurt me so bad the weight of the world fell off my shoulders when I left him. I looked back and thought how stupid was I for staying as long as I did. I wasted 10 yrs of my life fighting to save nothing.
2007-01-16 03:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, can your partner learn to be trustworthy? What has he/she done to earn your trust? Once that happens, perhaps...but, no...if nothing has changed then no.
I trusted my oldest teen implicitly until, at age 14, she broke that trust. She is now 22 and I still question what she says to me. I have never regained that trust that I had. I want to, but I can't. I don't know if I ever will. It must be much harder with a husband/wife.
2007-01-16 02:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
depends if they are willing to do all of the work involved in the restoration of the relationship. but if they have lied to u more than once, than it will be much harder to have hope, and faith in that person. sometimes even if we think we have forgiven the one who hurt us, as soon as we get back into the relationship and regain our self worth, we may not really want that person anymore. takes a long time and alot of work to regain trust. most people give up because it is just too hard.
2007-01-16 02:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to figure out why its okay for this person to keep lieing to you and continuing to disrespect you. No i don't think you will ever be able to fully trust this person again. Time to move on honey. Sorry once a dog always a dog. Your partner will keep lieing becuz they know they can.
2007-01-16 02:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by diana b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I know how that feels- and yes- you can learn to trust them as far as they can be trusted!
This means, you know what they will lie about, and you know what they'll be truthful about.
All trust is limited really. It's just a question of what you trust them with and what you don't!
2007-01-16 02:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by askto81007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if they choose to be trustworthy and you see results in their actions.
It's good to be observant at a time like that. It's very hard though and takes a lot of time.
It may not be worth it unless you're married and have kids depending on you, it is much easier to find a person who is trustworthy.
Once again I suggest the book "He's just not that into you".
2007-01-16 02:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can learn to trust them again. It takes God to help you with your relationship. If you have that personal relationship with God I guarantee you that He will work it out. No matter how your partner treats you God tells us that vengeance is His. So leave it in His hands and watch Him work.
2007-01-16 02:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by Child of God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't work. I've tried it myself. Once the trust is broken, suspicion takes over.
2007-01-16 02:25:25 · answer #11 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋