I love him
2007-01-16 02:00:56 · 16 answers · asked by P 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your gay what?
You have to finish your questions or we don't know what you're talking about.
2007-01-16 02:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It has been mentioned on here several times.
You should tell your best friend that you are gay but you should not tell him that you think you love him at the sametime.
He may not know that you are gay and this by itself might be alot to take in. You do not want to add the additional information that you love him. Let him get used to the fact that you are gay. If he is gay, hopefully he will let you know. If he is not gay or bi, then the fact that you love him will not cause him to change and start loving you. You will never change that.
Good luck.
2007-01-16 10:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man it depends on if you know how he feels about gay's if he's your best friend you should have heard him say F*g once or twice and know he's not into that stuff or hates them. He might run or say O'well, just don't make a move because I would punch ya dude, I wouldn't hate you, so he might exept it but probably won't want you to say you love him it would freek him out.
2007-01-16 10:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
P, he probably already knows. Still, I have to warn you (from experience) that there are guys out there who actually know their friend is gay (or bi) and are fine with it, until the non-straight fellow decides to bring up the topic or comes out to them. There is something about actually "bringing the topic up" that especially scares guys off. It may be that homophobia comes up or they fear that you are going to attempt to seduce them. I have also found that men who are afraid of this topic have questionable sexual orientation issues themselves -- or there they have a deeply hidden fear of sexual topics because of sexual abuse in the family, poor sexual relationships with female partners, etc.
I would approach the topic carefully when you are alone together. Put it to him bluntly, see his reaction but then don't dwell on it for a while. See how he treats you after you've told him. Does he still phone you? Does he still confide in you? Does he still want to do things with you?
I have learned to be very careful about this type of thing. Some men are like what I have described above. Others (already out) seem to think you want to be bed partners with them or that you should adopt the sometimes outlandish sexual lifestyle that they have established. And if you don't adopt a lifestyle that is similar to theirs -- event though they are not straight themselves, they dump you.
2007-01-17 01:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to come out before you declare.
test the water first.
try saying that a friend just came out to you and ask him how he feels about that. listen to what he says and if its negative, give him time.
when you decide its a good time to tell him, don't get long-winded and just say it: "you're my best friend and i want to be honest with you. i'm gay."
after you say that, you might want to hold off on the "i'm in love with you" part until the information sinks in. don't kill him with too many revelations.
if it doesn't feel right after coming out to him, you don't have to tell him you're in love with him. but, even if he is ok with it, there is no guarantee he won't get freaked out about this. you will have to weigh the situation: you can either have a happy ending, or end up losing a friend.
my story ended with losing one friend and keeping the other. but, i wasn't in love with either one.
2007-01-16 11:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by theP0OCH 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh just tell him
he hopefully will understand
and if he doesnt then oh well he obviously wasnt the guy for you
let him know that this is a very special an tender thing that you came to him to talk about thats why hes your best friend dont let him dimoralize you or bring you down you can find other friends
trust me of all people (i came out and my dad was so against it. my mom wasnt against. it ended up in divorce because my dad couldnt stand to look at me anymore and my mom still loved me for who i was. so he and her divorced because im gay.) hes an *** hole but oh well!!
2007-01-16 10:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is your best friend tell him your gay,u are still the same person.But hold off on the part u love him.Let him think over the 1st part 1st.
2007-01-16 11:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably already knows that you are and doesn't mind. He may not know that you love him though. If he's not gay, keep your crush a secret from him unless you don't mind if he bolts.
2007-01-16 10:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my m8 told my uvva mte she woz bi and was all into her at her birthday sleepover when we were like 15 it was wierd at first but we love her loads and it was more of a REALLLLY lol but if ur a bloke its gona b hard watch hollyoaks lol john paul wants to tell craig hes gay and loves him so see wot happens dude and copy if it goes well haha good luck!!!
2007-01-16 10:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by MissSara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. He probably already knows...don't be hurt if he doesn't feel the same way. Give him some time to adjust and remind him that you're the same person you were before he knew...good luck!
2007-01-16 10:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by jake78745 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your gay and love him, he will either be your lover or give you a serious azz whooping.
2007-01-16 10:04:57 · answer #11 · answered by Wiseguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋