Okay, my husband and I have been married for a little over a year, but I can't ever seem to get enough sex. He is the only guy I've ever had sex with and my first time was when I was 19, I'm 21 now. However, every time we have sex, I never get off....How can I enjoy myself during sex? What ways can we heat up the marriage again?
2007-01-16 01:54:35 · 21 answers · asked by Melissa Breazeale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had this same problem, with the same situation. My husband was my first lover and I never seemed to get off while having sex. I finally just told him to do it right or I was going to have to step in...jokingly of course so he didn't get offended. I finally had to show him where (you know what I mean) or just stimulate myself while we were having intercourse. My husband also liked to use toys on me....turned him on more than it did me, but at least I had an orgasm. Just open up and tell him, I promise it will get better!
2007-01-16 01:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by balooney2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him. Do not bring this to the table of other people . . . some guy will tell you he's the answer . . not what you need to hear.
Here's how to confront him.
1. Affirm the relationship. - Let him know you love him. All you want is to be in his arms forever.
2. Discuss the issue - GENTLY! Let him know you feel he's finishing before you are. Remember, it's not his problem, but both of yours together.
3. Discuss solutions - Ask him what he's willing to do. Talking to him during sex always helps. Imagine him fulfulling your fantasies . . .
There are medicines that will help his logevity. He could do something to stimulate you before he penetrates you. Try reading a book about it.
http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/product/?item_no=20649X&p=1010575
http://www.christianitytoday.com/marriage/features/bettersex.html
4. Discuss how you are both going to work on it. - Decide on a solution together. Remember to initiate it right away.
5. Reconfirm the relationship - Now you love him more than ever.
2007-01-16 10:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That usually differs for everyone, but the most important thing is to relax, be comfortable and try to set your mind free of everything else going on in your life. Try to enjoy the experience with your mind totally focused on your partner and nothing else. You could try introducing new things like role playing, toys, whatever interests you. Don't be afraid to let him know what YOU want, or HOW you like it done. :)
2007-01-16 09:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have four play and let him play with your clitoris? Do you have oral sex also? A method my wife used was to be on top and she could do anything she wanted with it inside of her. It seems unusual though that you are the one that can't get enough and maybe that's just because you aren't climaxing as you should. Best of luck!
2007-01-16 10:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a doctor and get a checkup to ascertain that there are no medical problems present. Ask about where to go from that point. Don't ask idiots and amateurs and expect expert advice as this subject strikes too close to home.
2007-01-16 10:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im taking medicen and its throwing me off so that could be a problem with you. I'm on antidepressants and everytime I get in the mood and something distracts me or scares me is throws me off. I would talk to a doctor and see if there is something there.
2007-01-16 10:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by momof2@22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have got married if sex was so important to you and the man you married can't do the job. But have him get behind you(doggy) and have him go to work ,while you use a vibrator. Thats as clean as i can say it. it works good if you want to finish my chick does it when I just want a quicky
2007-01-16 10:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok first of all there is obviously no communication between you guys. Talk about it. And if that dont help, im sure there is a sex store around you and buy a dildo, and play with it while in the bed with him. It usually works. It did for me.
2007-01-16 10:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by themom95 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get plenty of oral to begin with... find something that gets you turned on and see about concentrating on that before and during..
perhaps you need to have a little break and find some other guys to have sex with - nothing serious, just a different perspective... or chat with some guys online for ideas... :D
2007-01-16 10:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
discuse it with him and tell him about your needs and what makes you happy
change the positions it 'll work
play and talk before having complete sex
have oral sex more kisses and hugs may work
2007-01-16 10:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by aya m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋