I can't decide when exactly to tell my boss that I'm Pregnant?

Question

I thought that maybe I should wait for my first prenatal visit, but that's not until next week, and I'm already 7 weeks preg.
I am kind of apprehensive about telling him even though I know that the entire staff will be exited, because this is a pro-life orangization, my boss is a serious person and it's hard to tell him anything, let alone that I'm pregnant.
Any suggestions? Thanks. :)

Answer 1

I am having EXACTLY the same problem as you today. I am 8 weeks 3 days, and I had my first prenatal appointment yesterday. My DH and I saw a beautiful strong heartbeat, and the doctor said my chances of miscarrying at this stage, given that beautiful heartbeat is less than 2%. I went home thinking that I would run into my boss's office first thing this morning to tell him, and I chickened out because he is as serious as yours sounds, and I just wasn't sure about the reaction.

I thought after reading the responses here, I would have a better idea of when to tell, but if anything, I'm more confused. The truth is, that if you were (god forbid) to miscarry, you probably would want your boss to know, because you would be going through a tough time.

I think that as pregnancy goes on, there is always some risk of something or some illness to be learned, and we must all take it with a grain of salt. Since my doctor has assured me that I have a low risk of miscarriage, I feel like I can tell him. I just need to muster up the courage. I definitely will do it in the next 2 weeks, just because I want it to sink in before I need to switch to maternity clothes, (which is not far off, I'm afraid).

I have thought about my maternity leave and other issues like that. I would recommend that you have answers (even if they are only preliminary) to certain questions like how long you plan to work, how long you plan to stay out on leave, and whether you are coming back after the baby. If you can reassure him as to those issues, the serious boss should be easy enough to inform.

Answer 2

It is recommended that you wait until the end of your first trimester since you are at a very sensitive phase of pregnancy right now. However, if you must do strenuous physical activity, it might be best to tell your boss now to prevent harming your child. I am 21 weeks along and still haven't told my boss because I just started working at my office in September. But when I do tell him, I will be prepared, which might help you ease the news. Make sure you discuss with your boss how long you plan to be out or if you plan on returning. Also recommend a temporary replacement and offer to train the person while you are still there so the rest of the office does not get overwhelmed. I constructed a little manual on the daily tasks of my office and how to navigate our computer program and am planning to stop by my office once a week until my due date in June. I will also make calls and be available by email in case I am needed. Perhaps showing your boss how responsible you can be even while and after your pregnancy will make breaking the news a bit less stressful for you. Congratulations!

Answer 3

I am seven months pregnant now and I waited till about two months ago to tell my boss. Some people thought that it was crazy that I waited so long to tell after I told them but I think it was actually really good for me. It made me suck it up and not complain for months. I just had to deal with what was happening and couldn't blame everything on my pregnancy. But now that everyone knows it's ok too. I have good support and people are excited. But then again, you get the tummy petting and the questions all the time too. Weigh your options. Personally, I wouldn't say anything until your first doctor's appointment, just to be sure. Then it's up to you how long you wait. If you don't actually want to have to tell your boss face to face you could write a professional note to tell your boss.

Answer 4

Let your boss know, just in case something happens that to you at work or your job could be affected by your pregnancy (lefting heavy objects). Someone at your workplace should be aware of your condition as you are there for at least 8 hrs a days and things do happen. I told my boss as soon as I found out because I have a history of miscarriage and should I need assistance, I would have someone at work who knows of my situation. Let him know that you do not want it broadcasted to the whole staff at this stage but you will let him know when you are comfortable with everyone knowing.

Answer 5

You dont have to tell him till your about 20 weeks so i understand why you would not want to wait till then. But they do advise to wait till the end of your first trimester.

I dont want to ruin this happy time for you but i tol my boss at 8 weeks and that same day i miscarried.I hope this dont happen to you, but the chance decreses after 13 weeks.

of couse if you have a good relationship with your boss then maybe telling him now may be better, plus if your more tired or are having sickness he may be more understanding.

Sorry not been much help.

Answer 6

With the family leave law...he has to make sure you have a job after you give birth...if your job requires a body to fulfill a company needs...it's best to tell him asap so he can plan ahead to temporarily fill the void....if you plan to return to work...suggest a temporary employment company so the person that fills your position wont be expecting to stay there and knows it's temporary.
Pregnancies are all different..some women can work till the day they deliver..others have problems that would require them to leave early.
Either way..it's best you don't leave him hanging..that would just bring animosity and stress to you.

Answer 7

I say wait till your dr app. is over I am doing the same thing but i only work in a tanning salon so my only problem will be bending over cleaning beds but i got a long way to worry about that wish you luck

Answer 8

depends where you work. If you work in a phyiscally demanding job, or if you work in a factory with chemicals or things that are harmful to you and your baby tell him as soon as you can. They need to be aware of your condition so they can take proper caution in what you do and what your around. Otherwise ifs a low key job you can wait till your first Trimester is over to tell him.

Answer 9

I think it will be fine. Wait till after your appt. then tell him. You want to make sure he knows before you're showing, better to come from you than to have rumors flying around the office. I'm sure your appt. will be fine also, but should anything happen, you'll need someone at work to know that you're expecting. Congratulations!

Answer 10

You shouldn't tell anyone you're pregnant until you're further along, because anything could happen.. If you told everyone right now that you're pregnant and then you go to your appointment and you're not, it could make things awkward. So i'd wait until you're in your second trimester to start spreading the word. :)